So much trouble caused in our world is as a direct result of prejudgment, making assumptions, and stereotyping!
As a man of colour, I venture into environments where, often I am the odd one out! Why do I do that? Well because I see myself as equal to anyone else in this world.
I was born not knowing what I will experience due to my outward appearance before my cognitive senses kicked in, but should I need to endure such energy?
The answer is obvious.
In truth, because of my personality, and outward demeanor I don’t often experience negativity, I try to immerse myself in the community, wherever I am or wherever I go, and always with a positive outward engagement.
Of course, there will be those that live in a shrouded dark cocoon, read only stuff that superimposes their suspicions, fears and learned bias. It is not unusual for me to experience women holding on to their purse or bag when they pass close to me, but that is them and I am me, but it does irk me from time to time.
I hold on to my wallet and smart phone too, for the same reasons.
It is called security.
Though I don’t fear the person, I fear losing my phone or valuables, it’s quite different. How do I know this? Well from 40 meters away, I sense their fear – it is an acquired sense for those of us who have that extra dose of melanin. It is rare, but some will cross over the road, while others will walk near the kerb, and others will even from afar, shift their bag to the opposite side from my path, that’s how I know that they’ve immediately judged me, not because they know me, but because people who look like me, are deemed to be dangerous. In the words of Trump… SAD!
So where am I going with this?
As the title of this blog asks, would you buy music without hearing it first? Be honest now! I suspect not. Oops I am making assumptions, my bad 🙂
Joking aside, why do so many of us judge one another??
We assume this and that, pigeon-hole people regarding race, gender, religion, wealth, demographics, how we dress, our accents, and so it goes on… without actually knowing who our fellow human being is.
Of course, in situations where there may be some kind of threat, your serene instincts will kick in, is there to protect you and will always be right.
However, when you step out your front door, and the guy or family opposite looks or behaves different from you, you make an instant assessment without even saying hello to gain some kind of response, to kick open the stubborn communication door to engage with that guy or family.
Yeah I know some of us are shy or reserved and would rather they make the first move, but suspicion and or fear in your mind generates an energy that is, shall we say discernible, and if that discernible energy translates in the mind of your neighbour as suspicion and or fear, they too won’t make the first move, so what do we have?
Yes, a stalemate… this happens up and down the land.
Often times, when you engage with someone you feel suspicious about, you will often be very pleasantly surprised. We can all learn from each other, we all know something that another person doesn’t.
Travel for me, is the best way of breaking down preconceived barriers.
Now, we like to think we’re the most intelligent species on the planet, but when you consider the above, I am not so sure.
So let’s focus on the positives…
The statement ‘we have more in common than what divides us‘, is a fact.
Should we take that view on a daily basis, instead of buying music we’ve never heard, the world would be a much better, more peaceful, empathetic, understanding and mutually loving place to exist.
Think about it, and practice the statement above in the coming days, and see what positive experiences you have encountered and learned, and if you wish, report back with comments.