How many of you have met someone who will declare ‘You must come and visit one day!’ or agree to YOUR proposition, without really intending to follow through on that agreement.
Arguably more serious perhaps… how many people do you know that will look into someone’s or your eyes and declare ‘I Love You’, or as someone I recently experienced while clinking a glass of bubbly, ‘Friends for Life’ … or ‘I DO… for better and for worse’, or I HATE YOU!
What someone says isn’t insignificant, every word (written and spoken) sent to someone open to listening or reading, will have an impact. Depending on the character of the listener or reader, words may traumatize, or relieve – but an impact will be made.
I MEAN WHAT I SAY, AND SAY WHAT I MEAN.
People will declare you a friend, but the meaning of ‘friend’ is often like love a throw away term, frequently used as a control tool.
Its unblemished meaning in someone is increasingly rare indeed in our westernised, materialistic, I want and expect it now world.
As a result, more of us see words as just words, what really defines someone, is not what they say, it is what they do, how they treat you.
I can’t deny that I fall into this category, but I will always give someone a chance (we are all likely from time to time to make errors of judgment) should their first two attempts at sincerity not transpire; however there is very unlikely to be third opportunity with me; won’t say never, but very unlikely.
It may be me, but sincerity even if said or acted in difficult back against the wall circumstances is precious, it’s like a shard of light, perfect in every way!
The only thing is, we’re not so perfect, not me and not you – so who’s pointing that accusing finger out there? Come on, own up!
So how do we know when someone is ‘real’ as we say, well we go full circle back to the actions speak louder than words adage.
It’s the only genuine measurement (mistakes included) we have immediately at our disposal.