Sometimes I often and do need to reflect on my personal journey, for reasons that some of you may share or in some tenuous way, understand.
As ever, on the top of my journey list are people; people who you think are friends or even family, but when you dig deeper, you begin to discover that they only have and use their own self-interest as leverage to move their lives forward, whilst using others as human vehicles.
Added to that journey list, are those that drop their external mask and what is revealed behind their crumbling mask is not the person you thought you knew, but a person who you don’t really know at all.
I recall a story, where a married Italian couple who were married for well over 60 years and was celebrating their wedding anniversary. The wife revealed to her husband who are both now well into their 80s, that she had a fling very early on in their marriage. This revelation so enraged her longtime, husband, lover, partner and friend, that he divorced her.
(As you know my mantra is never make emotional decisions)
She clearly felt that having lived together for so long over many decades, that such an honest confession would be weighed up against and understood by her husband, over what they have shared and nurtured over such a long time, well she was clearly wrong… and he believed that his wife was as faithful as the nose on his face!
The saddest thing is, that there was very little life left for them both.
Perception is more powerful than reality right?
If I know anything in life is that anyone can infiltrate minds by creating a perception of credibility; scammers, cheaters, politicians, fake news…
It can be a very useful tool to have in our life journey tool bag, but use wisely.
However, when all is said and done, eventually the time will come when ‘the boy who cried wolf’, will not be taken seriously because, there’s was no WOLF!
As you know, people fascinate me, in every way possible – from toddlers who could not give a care in the world, who are stainless, openhearted and precious, to those who have seen all that the world has to offer, have forged judgmental opinions on this and that, and still have influence and much to say!
Yet ultimately, it is what lies deep in our hearts and not in our minds that will determine our destiny, the indelible influences during our formative years, what we choose to do and the consequences thereof, who we ride with through life, and that all important attitude to life effect.