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Many of us will judge each other… however, very few of us will breakdown who we actually are. 

Not many people know this, but Self-reflection is vital to our self-growth and self-understanding. 

We spend way too much time thinking externally, rather than internally, and internally is who we really are. 

Once a week in the evening, I switch off my smartphone, and pick up a book with a subject which feeds my internal self. 

There are many books that offers internal reflections, just check out Amazon or your local libraries. 

I don’t like getting into poor habits or being addicted to anything or anyone, so I will daily walk at least 4 miles with my earphones and listen to an audio book on a particular subject that I feel I need on that day.

Self-reflection also taps into our higher self, which is pretty much how we came about in the 1st place, which is how and why when we’re very young, we can learn so many things in weeks rather than months or years… like languages or musical instruments.

Yes our birth right ladies and gentlemen.

For the most part, we do self-reflect, but we do so subconsciously, the daydream mode. 

Self-reflection also acts as a vital assessment on how our lives is being lived, and what we can do to improve and realise our short, mid and long-term life goals. 

We can go from 30 years to 50 years which feels like for many of us, like 10 years, and once you reach 50, you start to think about how much time we have on this physical firmament, and self-reflection underpins these thoughts, which often means preparing for the inevitable. 

So self-reflection is often overlooked by many of us, but please heed this message.

Just as you would check you motor vehicle once a week or your bank account periodically, so you should check your internal self on a daily basis too!! 

Once again, Live n love always people!



Don’t allow anyone who you regard as an ‘earth angel’ out of your life

Now most of us are good people, we all want the same thing….

A good life, quality food on the table, see our children thrive, our parents grow old gracefully, our friends remain loyal, chase and secure that dream job or career, have an annual vacation at the very least, travel the world and engage in foreign cultures, that special person that we just can’t live without.

Yes as the saying goes, ‘we have much more in common, than what divides us’, yet more often than not, we focus on what divides us. As demonstrated in my previous blog post, do you buy music before hearing it first? It’s an analogy, but you get the point right!

I have just spent 8 hours across 2 days, supporting a leader of people, who just cannot lead. He cracks the whip like he is in a circus, he shouts, he scorns, he demoralisies his charges, and yet he expects them to give him respect.

As we know, respect works both ways, even more so in a team environment.

Even with me, he behaves in an unsatisfactory manner, but I refuse to accept his ingrained bully like behaviour, so I continue to remind him, that the reason he has such high staff turnover, is due to his behaviour.

Perhaps I was sent to be the earth angel in his life, maybe he will change his behaviour so his public image improves and people will respect him, not because he demands it, but more like a instinctive response to his newly formed characteristics. Let’s hope so.

I suspect deep down he is a good man, but we all have a journey that will have an subconscious effect on our lives right?

So I will give him the benefit of the doubt. We all have more in common… 

The point of this blog is to embrace and not judge, to listen and not talk over, to forgive, but never forget, to change and not stagnate, to achieve and not procrastinate, to help and not walk by, to love without conditions, I could go on….
Yes this is my definition of an Earth Angel, there aren’t that many people who you come across in life, (even those in your family included), that can be defined like this.

We all have our faults some more than others, so we must give some space or flexibility where possible, but there’ll be limits, we need to love and respect ourselves first, before we can show love and respect. There are limits people!

So dear reader, do try in this hostile environment, try and be an Earth Angel whenever and wherever you can. 

Live n love always



What will be yours?

Seriously, think about it, how do you want others to think of you after you’ve moved on to your world of spirit. I know not of all you readers will believe in the after life, but I do, and for justifiable reasons, too any things happen in my experience that just shouldn’t or couldn’t, but did.

Back to my Q.

My legacy? I’d like to think of my legacy as someone who has always sought to leave a lasting positive impression on people whenever it is possible to do so.

I also take chances, go to places, and do things where most of my peers may be reluctant to do or go- I label this as a means to nurture self-growth.

I would also like to think that I am someone with a rich sense of humour, I like to laugh a lot… and dance!

I am also someone who is not afraid to cry in public; I like to think that this means I am in tune with the feelings of others and myself, and free to publicly sympathise or empathise emotionally without feeling embarrassed.

I also know that I am old school in terms of values and tradition – good manners, speaking when spoken to, try to be honest though failing sometimes, being silent when needed, dressing smart in public, smiling or saying hello to strangers from whatever background or hue etc.

Most of all, I like to think that I am someone who provokes inner reflection, trigger the non typical thought process in others, inspires, motivates and empowers.

Of course it sound like I am Mr. Perfect, but as you look back through this site, I also acknowledge my failings, and said failings are embraced, so that I limit the potential to repeat them.

Legacy. When I visit a cemetery I spend time reading what’s written on the headstones.

There are those, whose stones demand a read, are surrounded in flowers, gifts and cards, clearly displaying immense respect and love – and sadly there are those that seem to reflect outwardly on whether the deceased was ever loved at all or had anyone who cared.

Interesting right?

Hmm, perhaps I think too much.





I’ve always tried to live an honest life. Throughout I’ve tried to leave a positive impression on everyone I meet; particularly those less fortunate than I am.

I’ve made mistakes, sure, but who doesn’t?

My life to-date has been rich with great experiences – in some cases, what dreams are made of, and I have the power of choice to thank for that.

To remain grounded, I periodically think of when my day of enlightenment finally comes, what will be my legacy?

Doing so helps me to ensure I do not let myself, my departed parents, or my daughters down. I always try to do the right thing; and live my truth so that I can be true to others.

Thinking of what my legacy will be, nurtures my inner peace too; I must say, it’s a wonderful place to be ♥