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Life after Life?

Spirituality is important to me, now this does not necessarily mean I do not respect many of the teachings and testimonies of the world’s established religions; indeed I was raised a Roman Catholic, was a Sunday school boy and church acolyte, it is more that I live my life through the interpretation and backdrop of the human and natural energies that I/we experience every day of our lives.

As a result, I like to think that I navigate my way through life much like a dolphin uses sonar across the oceans. In short I am more in tune with covert emotions, and what isn’t said than what is. It comes in handy in my role as a coach. But what I really wanted to focus on in this article, are my thoughts on what happens when what we call life finally ends, well, ends as we can comprehend it.

Some of you will believe that once we die, that’s it. the _______________ has no spike! Others will believe that it is only the physical you that ceases to function; I call this the ‘Human’ you, and that the spiritual you; I call the ‘Being’, continues to have a conscience at a level that only exists in a different reality. I lean to the latter. Why do I?

I would like to try and recall a very sad experience for me; the loss of my dad. My father had to visit hospital for what seemed a routine complaint. It transpired that his complaint was more serious than first thought, and over a period of just 4 days, my father literally went from his usual charming, humorous, ‘I don’t worry about a thing’ self, to the reality that he was in fact dying before his family’ eyes. Throughout his rapid deterioration, he still remained incredibly engaged up until the point when he could not use all of his five senses. One sense remained to the last however; his hearing.

Difficult to recall, but I will do so anyway. In the final hours of his life, I spoke to my father close up to his left ear. He wanted me to contact his brother (my uncle) to let him know that he loved him, how did I know this, I heard his voice in my head. So I contacted my cousin, and told him that my dad sent his love to my uncle (who himself was unwell following a series of strokes), and that he must get this important message in some way to my uncle. Throughout, there was a radio placed on the hospital window ledge playing music. There were two songs that I remember clearly… during this very emotional communication to pass my dad’s words of love to my uncle, the song that was playing in the background was Suddenly by Billy Ocean.

Once I informed my dad right up close to his left ear that I had arranged with my cousin to send his love to his brother, a single tear rolled from his left eye. It was then that I heard in my head his thank you, and I felt that I had no further duties to execute, so I again went up close to my father’s left ear and said “Pops, go now, don’t be afraid” and at that very moment, he stopped breathing and silence fell. In an instant, the song that started to play was Dance With My Father, by Luther Vandross.

If you don’t know either of these songs, I suggest that you go to YouTube and listen to them both paying close attention to the words.

At that very moment, I knew that my father’s energy was communicating through these two songs via the radio cryptic messages to me that was emotionally reassuring. Is this proof of life after life? No, but does it refute the same, No. What it does illustrate (for me at least) that there is more to life than we have come to accept it as.

It is possible that some of you reading this will have heard of or have lived through similar accounts of experiences that seem to support the belief of life after life, I would really love for you to share these with me.Life after Life


Judging Virtually

Has technological advancement forced so many of us to cast judgement from afar?

You know, with all these social networks – we are seemingly ever more cautious about this person and that person, in some cases rightly so, while in others the judgement is often a reflection of our own insecurities and prejudices.

Yet some of us spend many long hours trawling profiles and hopeful images of him, her, or them.

There is a lot of precious life time wasted here; very often needlessly in forming irrational, fact-free opinions that ensures that your status-quo remains today as it was yesterday, though you dearly wish it would change.

The truth is of course, nothing changes unless you do!

These popular social networking sites will often have a theme. Some are business focused, with other sub-categories so that you can connect and interact with like-minded folk that will probably share your interests. In many cases one has to be checked-in prior to becoming an approved participant.

Others are much more liberal, allowing the user to connect to whomever will accept an invitation… in such cases, similar interests like music genre, race, political ideals, gender, nationality, faith, sport etc, may play an important role in determining who you would choose to connect, or ‘friend’ or ‘follow’ with, or instead simply bypass on your merry virtual journey.

For those shrewd enough to understand the pros and cons of these seemingly ever mushrooming sites, manipulation and even more undesirable sinister pursuits can be leveraged. So there are certainly some merits in being picky and diligent.

There is also a positive argument that these mediums can allow some of us to interact virtually with people who ordinarily just would not happen in the big bad ‘real’ world.

From incredibly famous people who you have always admired, to that special person you’ve always had a distinct amorous interest in, but could not or would not dare to make an approach to, even over the telephone – but a short and crisp virtual nudge with a sentence or two, is a much less stressful procedure.

You can be incognito by choosing an avatar or photographic image of your choice, the ironic upside is, very often this will achieve your end goal – CONTACT!

You know, for some of our more younger members of society, this IS the first step in meeting someone, the chat up line with all the ‘physical’ risks that may accompany, is surely a dying skill set – you can’t get SLAPPED by your laptop right?

For all the good that technology brings us, it also takes so much goodness away.

As a user myself, I often sense fear, anxiety, and ever more analysis paralysis through the radiation of my GUI every day – and it really is not a good experience.

We are HUMAN BEINGS, we are all fallible, and we are by our very nature born to interact, even if it means we face rejection, hurt and other risks – this is how we learn, and whatever we learn, forms the very tiniest ingredient of universal wisdom.

Is this potentially marvellous reward for being true to ourselves first and others second, something so many of us have daily chosen to underestimate, ignore; often with zero reflection?

The greatest of men and women have often been the target of the harshest of rejections, and ill-treatment. But these brave and persistent people, will have gained so much from their experience, much more than if they chose a less challenging path.

So the next time your imagination of anxiety runs wild, the next time that a potentially life enriching opportunity slips from you never to return, because you’ve spent weeks if not months painting ‘oh dear’ or ‘what if’ illusions about this person or that person online, without ever knowing the first thing about them, should be the time you choose to slay your virtual judgements.

You do not define anyone with your judgment. You only define yourself as someone who needs to judgeWayne Dyer