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Rules for Life #45 The Magic…

Have you read the book The Magic by Rhonda Byrne?

Well it focuses on GRATITUDE

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Gratitude is not really prevalent in our lives, it is all about gain, gain and more gain.

Whether you are right now going through a crisis, or you are lying on a pristine beach in paradise, you have to and must give gratitude always!

As you know, my parents ‘RIP’ were both illiterate, neither could read or write effectively, so more often than not, I would have to drive miles to their home to complete forms, or to write letters for them, but it is they that put me through school (wearing second hand clothes), to learn how to read and write, so I have an immense amount of gratitude and love for them.

I recently flew into London, and my first stop was at their resting place (something I always do when I visit my home town)… even though I don’t live in the UK, when I got there it was just as I left it two Augusts ago… the flowers were wilted and weeds had grown to such an extent, it blocked the site of the stone. So with little tools, I took some toilet tissue from the lavatory, borrowed a watering can to clean up the stone, and pulled up heaps of weeds, and before arriving at the cemetry I bought some flowers and made it more presentable; it is likely that I will have to do the same again when I return once more… but here’s the thing, I wouldn’t be in the position to clean up the stone if it were not for them.. so gratitude is sent again.

Many of us think negatively, partly because we’re bombarded on a daily basis with so much negativity, with little trust and integrity we take to the world in fear of what might happen to us. Now I am not one of those, but whenever I step outside and walk the streets, I can see fear or reticence in the eyes of others, I specialise in body language.

Gratitude fills us with hope, humility, and grace… it also provides us with a invaluable perspective, that when you see what happens around the world to those who are in a far worse position than we are, then this should promote gratitude and not fear! 

I like to be around people who wake up and take to life in a positive manner, despite their woes and burdens, and we all have burdens, but it is how you deal with or respond to your burdens that can make the difference to enabling failure or success in your life.

I have been through a great deal of woes in recent years, but when I step outside, I always say hello to strangers (I have a presence about me), even if they don’t reciprocate… it does not matter, because doing so is very rare indeed.

This is who I am.

I have a life, I can see, I can hear, I can walk, I can talk, I can pray, I can read, I can write, I can love, I can think, I can be empowered to change the lives or attitudes of others…

This is who I am.

My overall aim is to be content with Life, but to create plans and make choices to be even more content with my Life and the lives of others too… my mother always used to say ‘don’t be happy John, be content’ and this has been my mantra every single second of my conscious life, seeking contentment and not happiness, and gratitude is the overwhelming and unlimited fuel from which contentment can be achieved.

So dear reader, all 6,300 of you, do please embrace and show GRATITUDE at all times, gratitude fills you with joy and provides you with inner contentment and peace of mind.

Also, and this is very important, please no matter what happens, always always say THANK YOU!!!








Risk & Reward

This time last year I was unsure of what the future may hold; this period was not only confusing and stressful, but this period also allowed me to discover ME in more depth. So I am rewarded.

We all want to live a life that brings happiness, pleasure, wealth and security. What we should actually aim for is Life Contentment. Contentment is akin to nirvana if you will, all the other experiences can and is often short-lived, in particular happiness, but all can nurture insecurity, jealousy, depression and other negative fall-outs.

This time last year I took a risk. I decided I wanted to move to another country. I am attracted to adventure, new cultures and people. In doing so I benefit from learning or adapting to a different way to live. Experiencing how others adapt to my character or my physical appearance is important to me both personally and professionally.

But before all this, I have had to endure (the necessary) extreme chaos and (required) stress. Yet throughout I knew that I was, and still am served by a universal love; a love that protects, illuminates and guides.

Now I am in another country. While my previous location is currently cold (I am not a fan of cold weather), where I am now is warm and balmy.

Look, I could have remained in the comfort zone, a nice place, but as a well-known quote states ‘little grows there’. I could have avoided all the mental doubts, all the anxiety and financial costs, and be the mouse on the wheel in our global cage, waking up and experiencing the daily repeat repeat repeat, then going to bed and waking up the following day and experiencing repeat repeat repeat. Sorry this is not living this is existing!

So I am on my way to creating a rich life of contentment, a life where I continue to learn about most importantly about myself and critically others on a daily basis.

Take note of this universal rule…