Tag Archives: Compassion

Don’t allow anyone who you regard as an ‘earth angel’ out of your life


Now most of us are good people, we all want the same thing….

A good life, quality food on the table, see our children thrive, our parents grow old gracefully, our friends remain loyal, chase and secure that dream job or career, have an annual vacation at the very least, travel the world and engage in foreign cultures, that special person that we just can’t live without.

Yes as the saying goes, ‘we have much more in common, than what divides us’, yet more often than not, we focus on what divides us. As demonstrated in my previous blog post, do you buy music before hearing it first? It’s an analogy, but you get the point right!

I have just spent 8 hours across 2 days, supporting a leader of people, who just cannot lead. He cracks the whip like he is in a circus, he shouts, he scorns, he demoralisies his charges, and yet he expects them to give him respect.

As we know, respect works both ways, even more so in a team environment.

Even with me, he behaves in an unsatisfactory manner, but I refuse to accept his ingrained bully like behaviour, so I continue to remind him, that the reason he has such high staff turnover, is due to his behaviour.

Perhaps I was sent to be the earth angel in his life, maybe he will change his behaviour so his public image improves and people will respect him, not because he demands it, but more like a instinctive response to his newly formed characteristics. Let’s hope so.

I suspect deep down he is a good man, but we all have a journey that will have an subconscious effect on our lives right?

So I will give him the benefit of the doubt. We all have more in common… 

The point of this blog is to embrace and not judge, to listen and not talk over, to forgive, but never forget, to change and not stagnate, to achieve and not procrastinate, to help and not walk by, to love without conditions, I could go on….
Yes this is my definition of an Earth Angel, there aren’t that many people who you come across in life, (even those in your family included), that can be defined like this.

We all have our faults some more than others, so we must give some space or flexibility where possible, but there’ll be limits, we need to love and respect ourselves first, before we can show love and respect. There are limits people!

So dear reader, do try in this hostile environment, try and be an Earth Angel whenever and wherever you can. 

Live n love always

EzyEmp

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Rules for Life #39 A problem shared, is a problem halved…


Do you have someone who you can turn to when you’re going through a challenge, a problem or even a crisis? Well I sure hope you do!

We humans despite how much we mess things up, we usually rise to assist someone in need, not all of us, but most of us will. Those who don’t, well it’s difficult to know why, but there can be all manner of things that deter them from holding out a helping hand.

I struggle to see someone going through a crisis and not give a supporting voice, a listening ear, a helping hand, or simply take the problem over and sort it out for them.

I love the underdog, those who need help, I am there…

But that’s me; and as they say the more you give the more you get back – not instantly, but overtime your kindness, empathy, compassion, understanding will be reciprocated in some way – plus the more you give, the better you feel about yourself.

GOOD KARMA has a way of finding its angels and rewarding them.

Here’s one of my mottos…

The difference between an outstretched palm and a helping hand is a twist of a wrist.

EzyEmp

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Observing unity or lack of…


What is driving disunity among so many nations? What makes someone stab and shoot an unarmed woman in broad daylight, while shouting allegedly ‘Britain First’…

What the hell is happening in the USA? Why do not people clearly see what Trump was doing, was pandering to many American’s blind frustrations and deep-rooted and covert prejudice?  Resulting in him now going to be the USA President. Why what makes us different (unique), is now being what allows some of us to nurture and fuel hate, xenophobia and in some instances leading to violence and crime?

I am sure you will agree with me, that in these chaotic times it is difficult to be optimistic about much at all.

If one thinks negative, our perspective on life is negative and will result in negative experiences that in turn fuels negative thinking – EzyEmp.

I have a list on Twitter, check this link https://twitter.com/sourceofsuccess/lists/humanity-united

Among the members there are some notable people, institutions and right-minded thinking individuals in my humble opinion. If like me, you believe in unity, you may wish to become a member, no subscription required.

I created the list when I joined Twitter back in 2009. Even then I felt that society was moving towards increasing division – often founded on emotion rather than logic.

I look at relationships, and the pressures on many of us have to deal with that leads to finding a quick exit (with material attachments in some cases). Many of us fail to put up with much, our intolerance levels are below what our parents and grandparents possessed that allowed them to realise the ‘death do they part’ verbal commitment.

Communicating digitally is the accepted norm, increasingly we text or message… deep level discussions and debates are now online, followed with unheralded accompanying abuse. As social creatures this saddens me. I only have to look at a natural world documentary and whether it’s watching dolphins, great apes, ants or the at risk elephant, and simply marvel at how they seem to be more intelligent, more communicative, more understanding and more loving than we purport to be.

Everything seems superficial, both perceptively and in reality. 

We the silent majority are now challenged to step up and make a difference – not in the way that some Brexiteers or Trump supporters are doing, but create a human world where we can all live in peace, prosper and excepting our unique differences. We can all learn from each other, we all know something that someone else doesn’t. Our life journeys are intrinsically ours; our very own life taxi if you will, yet we will have to converge every now and then, and that’s what society is about isn’t it?

I do wish we would all smile more, I really do. We go through life with increasing suspicion, increasingly feeling we’re at threat from each other in some way shape or form.

I am a man of colour. I have chosen to leave my home base in the UK and live in Malta.

Now in Malta people still invariably reflect what you present to them – it is a nation that has grown used to foreign invaders, and with the current refugee crisis, Malta has become an ever-increasing cosmopolitan island.

I am a pretty chilled out guy, and though I am tall and athletic, I offer little threat to those I communicate with. Sure before I do, they will have an expectation, it follows that we men of colour through history are deemed a threat, but as soon as many of us engage, such perceptions are immediately blown asunder, not everyone is disarmed so readily, but the vast majority do.

The other aspect to all this is that none of us are born with any perceptions about what a particular ethnic or racial group is or not, it is taught. We enter this world without any knowledge whatsover of class, race, wealth etc. Again that flies in the face of basic intelligence.

So let me call on us all to throw out division, and disunity, it’s a dirty road to nowhere people. Let’s communicate more directly, let’s be more understanding, more compassionate, more forgiving, more positive and more empathetic. Not just for us adults, but for our children and grandchildren.

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#diversity #unity #bono

 

Someone known to me looked me in the eyes and said…


“I don’t do sorries”, no joke, words said and delivered with serious ice cold intent.

Have you noticed that some of the most powerful words in the English language only have four to five letters?

Love, Hate, Care, Hurt, Pain, Kind, Want, Will, Never, Must, Stop, FIRE, Need etc… and of course we can include the one word that can resolve so much sorrow and discord in our lives, SORRY.

It may be that if you say sorry too many times, could arguably leave you open to be taken advantage of or even bullied.

Though used appropriately and timely it is the perfect antidote for negative drama, and the perfect tool for enabling the turning of the page.. and even ‘closure’ in some extreme cases.

It is also courteous and admirable to own up when we’ve screwed up; we will and must make mistakes, we are and will remain fallible.

So saying sorry really should offer so many advantages over not doing so right? Well when selfish pride, and being ridiculously stubborn comes in to play, contrition generally chooses to hibernate.

That being said, saying sorry is truly a wonderful expression of compassion and empathy. So please use it when you really know that you should.

As for the person that claimed that they do not do sorries… I feel Karen’s quote pretty much reflects my sentiment.

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