9You know when you have commitment from someone when you’re going through a crisis, and they join you in that crisis.
It’s easy to identify who is loyal, and who is a staunch friend when you’re going through a crisis or need some kind of support, and let’s be honest, there are not that many.
We’ve all come across those who set conditions in exchange for support; indeed some relationships are just like that.. ‘ain’t nothing going on but the rent’ adage, which breaks the marriage vows.
For better for worse, in sickness and health, till death do us part.
When you start identifying patterns of behaviour that seems at odds with unconditional love, that’s the time to think whether you should continue with the relationship. Now don’t get me wrong, there are practicalities in life that may require being addressed, but both of you ideally should deal with such practicalities, not one or another should shoulder the entire burden.
A problem shared is a problem halved.
Just like housework or generating income should be shared, so should a personal crisis, but there are limits of course, and if the crisis be it financial or infidelity or some other issue, there has to be limits; there’s only so much one can take right.
Commitment matters, it really does, it can make a difference to a successful and positive outcome or one can invoke the ever decreasing circles syndrome until it’s too late to recover the dying embers, and all what was achieved (time) is then lost, and you can’t reverse time.
Now if you find someone who is committed, don’t reject them and if you too is commited, then there lies the prize.