At times I wonder what if I had the opportunity to rewind the clock to key periods in my life, to allow me to make entirely different decisions; but like life itself, there’s no turning back, were on this endless road to immortality, we just don’t know when the road will end.
Life itself is like a game, some of us know how to play it like a BOSS, while others just let life slip them by… the key is to be adventurous, embrace change, take affirmative action, be prepared to take a risk in the hope it may pay off, and usually will if you have prepared enough in advance.
I just can’t help wondering if I had made some more decisive instinctive choices, I would be in a place, where I had intended, but I have made instinctive choices, so I must accept the consequences of my choice.
One thing I do know, I am always prepared to take a risk, and this quality is hardwired to my brain; it is WHO I AM!
Happy PALM Sunday dear reader!
Here are some life events that I will never forget..
- As a five year old playing Herod the King with a plastic floppy sword
- How my mother’s tears will instantly make me weep when I was young
- My father bringing home bottles of Makeson Stout and chocolate eggs every Friday after work
- Being able to tread water in the deep end at a swimming pool
- My first kiss on my crush’ lips in the school playground, no tounges
- The first time aged 9 a school friend showed her vagina to me in a classroom
- When I lost my virginity aged 15 with my sister’s friend at a family party – she seduced me!
- The sensation of driving a car for the very first time
- Having a street fight with one arm; someone tried to rob me, but all they got was an empty wallet and a busted nose for their troubles (if it happened today with sharp weapons being the tool of combat) I may not be here right now
- Winning a national team dance competiton, we all fully lost it!!
- Performing on stage in Milan with Renato Raschel (he of solo mio fame) aged 20
- Discovering love in Italy with my dance partner Kerry Moore aged 20; we should be together today, but…
- Leaving home, watching my parents sadness and buying a home aged 23
- Having my first born aged 27, now Mrs Kyla Frye-Onilude
- Joining a vocal quartet and traveling the world aged 31, who’s founder died in March last year RIP, and then traveling the world as a solo artist mid 30s
- Travelling to Kenya with my 2nd daughter who’s nickname is Cocky, who I love dearly, an experience that I will happily take to my grave – 3 safaris in two weeks, the TV doesn’t capture the majesty of the animal kingdom whatsoever
- Losing my grandson to cot death; no words can describe that tragic experience. RIP
- Incorporating my first company late 30s, but with the wrong people
- Earning a six figure salary as a member of the Board of Directors at a computer services enterprise
- Flying to Manhattan a month before 9/11 and visited the Windows of the World restaurant at the top of the World Trade Centre. Timing and all that
- Losing my old man in 2008 to leukaemia in just 4 days, my mentor!
- My now 5 year old grandson, a talent coming to your screens in the not too distant future; mark my words
- Witnessing and being part of my daughter’s glorious wedding just last August, man she was incredibly beautiful on the day just as she was at her birth
One of my, if not the most cherished memory, was being able to translate a letter from Spanish into English for my mother, and watched the pride on her face as I did so.
Now, I have much to look forward to, living in the Mediterranean, watching my G’son grow up, and possibly others on the way too; and making the right choices and being with the right people in doing the right things, at the planned time.
Live n Love
My dog Louie, he was a character!
My mantra right here… as I have repeatedly said, never make an emotional decision; invariably it will come back to haunt you.