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Deception… is a wonderful word, but not a wonderful experience

We have this life, that I like to call a journey… we meet all sorts of people on the way, some are genuine, some are genuine and then they become unreliable, others are outright deceptive.

Most of us would prefer the former, and others can tolerate the unreliable, but most I would suggest, would not accept someone who is deceptive.

I fall into the latter category… as I suspect most of you would too!

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Once someone becomes deceptive, they are no longer on my journey.

It can take many years or sometimes instantly to discover someone who is deceptive, many relationships will reveal this, sure you can forgive, but what if there’s a pattern, once discerned, use the all-encompassing POWER of CHOICE and make the choice to not associate yourself with these people.

Live n Love always! 





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I’m feeling fired up today, and I’m burning bright, feel my heat!

My parents had difficulty reading and writing, but I’m an author today; and sharing my observations, knowledge and reflections through the written word is my elixr.

I’m driven to motivate and inspire not only others, but my higher self. 

I will leave a positive legacy and memory prior to my spiritual transformation


Want it – say it. Need it – get it. Love it – show it.

We’re a strange species are we not? I am often confounded and astounded by the things we do.

So many of us are living a life of undesired discontent, not happy, no idea of how things will transpire in the short or mid-term.

Yet we still have the ultimate power of choice, do we not? 

It’s a paradox right? We have the power to choose and yet so many of us do not make the right choices. Why is that? Lack of knowledge or experience…  fear or perceived expectations perhaps?

Well I have a theoryI believe that many of us don’t choose for ourselves, we actually make choices based on what we think we should do, what the media tells us to do, what others are doing, what is hip and trendy, what emotions we are feeling at any one time... am I making sense?

When we are young, most choices are instinctive. Yet somewhere between those early years and adulthood, the internal lines of nature becomes blurred with the external lines of expectation and what drives the ego; and of course with ego, there’s a downside; unfulfillment.


So how do we get what we want, achieve our needs, and find that rare form of unconditional love?

Some advice…

It all stems from what you want, what you need and what you love.

What do you want for you? What do you need for you? What do you want to love, and who do you want to love?

Quite honestly, we do make so many decisions in our lives complicated, needlessly I might add. Keep things simple.

All things in life requires effort and to some degree, necessary planning and a set of realizable aims.

So what are your aims?

Start with the end in mind, how do you plan to realize those aims; work backwards. What tools, resources and choices are needed to make your aims come into fruition – yes there’s a need for effort, application and a positive mental attitude, yet none of us could walk without falling down countless times as toddlers. So effort and motivation is inherent in our psyche and human nature.

Therefore effort and motivation must be and will be your twin partners in life, draw on them both; it’s a bottomless resource, ready and waiting to be unlocked and deployed; if we only choose to call on and apply them. Find it!

Life as we know isn’t easy, so much of what we do is impacted by external and internal factors that can affect our lives in ways that we have little or no control over, but we still do have the ultimate POWER OF CHOICE, and with it, a myriad of outcomes and consequences.

Choose wisely! 




Regrets are necessary…

There’s no worse feeling than having a deep sense of regret is there, it is just one of those NOooooo experiences right!?

More often in life than not, it is the things we DON’T DO that dictates our path in life.

From time to time we are presented with exceptional opportunities that are so blatantly obvious, that some of us will freeze in disbelief, resulting in a sense of trepidation.

The ‘should I shouldn’t I’ scenario, summed up as procrastination.

Often when faced with this moment in time, one often choose to avoid taking the moment to seize the moment. 

That sense of trepidation should be heeded and embraced, it’s your higher-self revealing a clear channel for change, not just any change, a lasting enriching LIFE CHANGE.

It is truly understandable that many of us will err on the side of caution, it is the what’s behind the door moment, don’t open it or the yongibongibow will be there waiting for you.

Many of us will find and have found just when we are faced with calamity, good fortune comes to our rescue. It is no accident dear reader, we get in life what we put in life.

For example if you do bad deeds, bad outcomes will follow. If you do good stuff, the good stuff fairy will be at your back; there to protect you from failing or losing or feeling enough is enough.

Paradoxically, that enough is enough moment is necessary, without it we will continue to move forward in a straight line superfast into the proverbial brick wall without ever thinking deeply to change what we do so we can avoid that brick wall.


Regrets are powerful tools for change, real change, not just any change, a lasting enriching LIFE CHANGE, if we choose to wake up and smell the regret coffee.

We often choose to think a regret as a NOooooo moment, but in fact, it is a signal for change, a sharp prod in our rib cage, a necessary slap on the back of our confused head.

So the next time you arrive at a regret moment, pause and ask yourself this…

What do I do now? Will I let the perceived negative experience halt me in my tracks and force me to make decisions based on an emotional mood, or will I wake up and smell the regret coffee. Choose wisely!

Seriously, before taking action, think first, remove the emotional aspect from your thinking and think with clarity, with focus on what your next decision will be.

What do I want for me? Not many of us ask this profound Q enough.



The fading positive values of #truth and trust.

It’s been a challenging world in recent years, trust of powers, authorities and each other are arguably the lowest I’ve witnessed in my lifetime thus far.

Truth is becoming an increasingly rare quality, even among our own friends and family.

Truth is a social requirement, it forms the foundations of trust; another fading human quality. Without it, the fabric of our human society is in danger of imploding. Wars, famine, refugees and other needless man-made crises are driving wedges between once peaceful and united communities.

I don’t know about you dear reader, but I am fond of people who mean what they say, and say what they mean.

You just know where you stand with such people; however there’s a growing sense that such people are few and far between.

As a result, more of us choose to remain in our ‘personal bubble’ and absorb sceptical info from the media, or choose to live in a digital world, where you can delete or add people with relatively minimal consequences, or our young stepping out of their homes with knives and other tools of destruction, just as many of us would grab our phones before leaving our respective abodes.

But how do we entrench and nurture truth and trust? 

Well one way, is to do what toddlers do… Be open, less judgemental, choose to live in the moment, live la Vida Loca, smile more, cry more, giggle more, dance more, instinctively learn different languages, be curious, read more, play more.

As an adult, we can stop over thinking, travel more and be more inquisitive about each other, talk to strangers more, embrace transformational change, be courteous and conform to positive social behaviours.

All the above requires personal application however, yes only positive human interaction can develop a much-needed rich culture of trust and truth between us all.

One more thing, we also need leaders of people, positive role models, people who can positively inspire our young; they are our future after all right? 

I’m doing my bit for the cause, I invite you to do the same.

The opposite of this is well…  TRUMP WORLD, FAKE NEWS, TERRORISM, ALTERNATIVE FACTS, HUMAN TRAFFICKING the very real risk of GLOBAL DESTRUCTION as a result of man-made choices and actions.

OK, let’s end on a positive note, IT’S NEVER TOO LATE!


Remove your mental fence!

Our lives is structured to be a challenge from the moment we were born, and for good reason too. Without challenges we simply would stagnate mentally, emotionally and physically. Yet many of us recoil at the thought of change… changing a relationship, changing a hairstyle, changing who we become friends with, changing jobs, changing where we live, changing how we react to this or that, changing what we eat or drink.

Yet the biggest challenge for most, is changing how we think!

How we think is the nucleus of how our lives will unfold. Now I don’t want to reach an age when I can’t get about, or my mind is less cogent than it is right now and look back and wished I had experienced this or that, and I am sure many of you will feel similar. Yet there are those of us who feel the same way and without a doubt, 2017 will be almost identical to 2016, 2015, 2014 and so on. Why? In my humble view, there’s something intangible that provides a deep level of comfort, and thus allows them to be locked into a thought pattern that does not permit them to challenge themselves too much.

I know some people who will not eat a cuisine that’s different from what they’re used to, I also know some people who will not befriend anyone from a different race or culture, I know some people who annually will always go on a holiday to the same place… every year!

Nothing wrong with this of course, if it makes them feel a sense of comfort, great; however what if they chose to try that different morsel of gastronomic delight, or befriended someone from a different race or culture that enriched their world for the better, or visit a place that will bring an unforgettable and unimaginable experience.

What, If…

I am driven to help people make subtle and distinct changes in their lives (small steps long journey), when I write my mind becomes alive! I have nothing to give but my (sometimes professional) thoughts on this and that… much of which we all share as human beings. In sharing my thoughts, I feed my own mind with rich healthy nutritious thinking.

Let me be clear here and now, Reading and Writing keeps the mind simmering for that chink of wisdom and good fortune that will be attracted into that necessary gap in the mental cage, these along with embracing and accepting change and making informed and moreover insightful choices, the uncharted winding roads to deep spiritual insight and luminescent serenity will be made crystal clear before you.

Have you ever noticed those unique people who you may pass in the street who seem not to have a care in the world, displaying a gentle yet beautiful smile on their face – trust me, these individuals have endured much, will have interesting stories to tell (if you ask them), and have come through the other side feeling liberated if not enlightened.

Liberating your mind is the key to untold peace and pleasure, don’t waste your precious time or this year by repeating what you have done, year in year out, or trying to control what’s around you, or simply being stubborn, remove your mental fence! 





Life’s mysteries

A week ago, I was again touched by spirit. Most often they let me know they’re with me by just playing with my hair or gently stroking my face, in this case it was the former.

I have an elderly family member who is not doing well health wise, and as I wasn’t with them as I am in another country, I wondered if it was a sign. No, thankfully it wasn’t.

Instead it was seemingly a precursor to a much needed change in fortune; also aided and abetted by prayer, a demonstration of hard work, humility and focus. So I am guessing it was either my spirit guide or someone on the other side, sensing that I have had enough trials recently and turned the page for me.

Some people don’t believe in prayer, and some people don’t believe in spirits, but I can assure you that whenever I pray and I mean pray with intensity, the magic happens.

But before the magic happens, one has to suffer (much like Jesus had to) to the point of despair; but you know what reader, I am a born optimist, and consistently talk in the positive to myself, and with my love of music, trying to help others, a lover of all things creative and staying in shape, I rarely if ever concede defeat, and if I do, doing so was necessary to take me up to another level when I choose to move on.

I have been here before, so I have learned, learned well, and at this mid point in my life, the consequences of my decisions will need to be previewed before I act.

Topic change. I love coconut water; yes coconut water, just like the turmeric spice, sweet potato, and ginger are very much in vogue. Now my roots have been strictly rooted in Caribbean cuisine (although anything rich in flavour suits me), so sweet potatoes, ginger and the incredible coconut in all its forms has been a part of my life since childhood. Why am I mentioning this? Well because I am in a good space, and the thought of these foods make me feel, well, wonderful.

Here’s something from his Holiness.