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Self-Respect matters…

I see so many people being disrespected, and for some reason, they allow such behavior to continue.

Quite often, it is usually the person you are most close with that will disrespect you, be it family or friend or more often than not, your ‘loved’ one.

But why does this strange paradox exist?

If you don’t respect yourself, ain’t nobody gonna give a good cahoot!

Says The Staple Singers! 

If there’s one thing my late parents taught me, is to never allow anyone to disrespect me, and in order to do that, I have to respect myself first!

If you have read my blogs, you will know I will give people 3 chances and after that I will walk away, I will not tolerate repetitive rudeness. Once may be a mistake, twice is taking advantage, thrice is my red line, it STOPS right there!

If you get to the third stage of disrespect that person senses you don’t respect yourself and hence, that person has in effect become a manipulative bully and will abuse you whenever they wish. If you allow such behaviors to continue, you will have minimal control over the perpetrator, seriously zero to minimal!

So when you go to sleep tonight, think just how much do you respect yourself, really just how much???

Remember your instincts are triggered for a reason… listen! 

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Wrong is wrong when everyone is doing it, and right is right when no one is doing it…

I will keep this brief.

Many of us will be aware of or know someone who for one reason or another, will consciously choose to be unkind, choose to look the other way when wrong is being done, choose to excuse or appease poor behaviour, choose to protect or side with the wrong-doer!

I don’t know about you, but for me this is akin to mob mentality, promotes bullying, a silent admission of inadequacy; moreover for any intelligent right thinking person, make no mistake, it is simply wrong.

In my opinion, when one observes poor behaviour; particularly when it is targeted at another person and either ignores it, excuses it or attempts to justify it… that person shares the same inhumane values, and is as culpable as the perpetrator.

But what of the victim, how do you think they should respond? Should they allow such actions to hold sway? Should they fight fire with even more fire? Should they remain dignified and choose not to lower their wholesome good values to the unhindered negative actions to those who are hell-bent or blind to their creation of discord, drama and conflict?

I would suggest the following; do not engage with these people any more than is necessary, keep up your decorum and self-respect, up-hold the values you know to be universally right, and most of all, do everything in your power to nurture your own happiness; why? Well…

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