Regrets chains you to your past indefinitely! It’s like being in possession of a 30 chapter novel called YOUR LIFE; today is chapter 15, but you constantly return to chapter 5, the moment (and it’s always just a moment) of your regret! How will you know how your book called LIFE will transpire if you never get to reach the end?! Let go, move on, or more accurately LIVE on! ~jgef~


Forthcoming Weekly Newsletter…

After lying low for some months now, I have been encouraged to produce a weekly e-mailed newsletter; offering support, useful links, guidance and inspiration.

In the next few days, I will give you more information, and hope that you will subscribe, and moreover I can reach out to you in a way that makes a positive and telling difference to your personal and professional life.

Peace, Positivity and Progression always,



The Most Precious Thing!

Today I gave some thought to what do we regard as most important.

Of course there will be some common things like family, my husband/wife, my children, job, my pet dog or cat, my car, house, business.

For some it could be money, their investments, gold, stocks, shares, estate and all manner of technological gizmo’s…

For others it’s quite simply life, to love and be loved, health, God, Allah or some other deity. I would be interested in learning what is yours!

Today it is Thursday or it may be Friday depending on where you are reading this from; nothing particularly extraordinary about that you may think, and looking at it from a distance, I would agree with you.

Only for me, this Thursday has arrived so rapidly, that last Thursday seems like three days ago!

In fact it struck me so strongly, that two words entered my thought chamber, they are TIC and TOC!

TIME – time is something I nor you can control, it is however something we all share.

More importantly at this very moment, my TIME is totally exclusive to me!

It has no limitations, or boundaries. There are no restrictions on how much I can use, or what I use it for.

It’s undoubted preciousness shone at me brightly when I gave thought to how much of this precious thing we describe as TIME is allowed to be wasted.

Think about it for a moment… is there anything more damning or foolish than wasting the most precious thing that is available to each and every one of us?

If there’s one thing sure to create a sense of that most unwanted thought of regret, it is the poor use of TIME.

Will today’s Thursday pass by in a blur and before we know it, it is once again Thursday of next week?

Once today is gone, IT IS GONE FOREVER! We cannot hold back time, rewind to a preferred point in time, it is GONE, gone for good!

This simple fact should motivate all of us to embrace this most precious thing, and do whatever it takes to manifest all the other special items I listed that enriches our lives; not to the point of short-lived happiness, but to lifelong contentment – all those things that the power and gift of TIME  graciously allows us to.


If we accept that each of our human senses have their own unique limitations, why then do we choose to accept all that they convey?

What we believe to be real or true,  may be a very different reality or truth for others…

Do not be held hostage to what you believe to be real or tangible, abstain ignorance and go beyond your comfort zone and allow your birth-right of discovery and the natural absorption of knowledge to nurture your true potential.



We was brung up proper!

This was sent to me and I thought it was worthwhile sharing…


1930’s 1940’s, 50’s, 60’s and early 70’s !

First, we survived being born to mothers who drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat, tuna from a can, and didn’t get tested for diabetes….

Then after that trauma, our baby cots were covered with bright coloured lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle….

Take away food was limited to fish and chips, no pizza shops, McDonalds , KFC, Subway or Nandos.

Even though all the shops closed at 6.00pm and didn’t open on the weekends, somehow we didn’t starve to death!

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.

We could collect old drink bottles and cash them in at the corner store and buy  Toffees, Gobstoppers, Bubble Gum and some bangers to blow up frogs with.

We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren’t overweight because…….


We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.

No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of old prams and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. We built tree houses and dens and played in river beds with matchbox cars.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo Wii , X-boxes, no video games at all, no 999 channels on SKY ,
no video/dvd  films,

No mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms………..WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no
Lawsuits from these accidents.

Only girls had pierced ears!

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

You could only buy Easter Eggs and Hot Cross Buns at Easter time…

We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!

Mum didn’t have to go to work to help dad make ends meet!

RUGBY and CRICKET had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! Getting into the team was based on MERIT

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law!

Our parents didn’t invent names for their kids like ‘Kiora’ and ‘Blade’ and ‘Ridge’ and ‘Vanilla’

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO

And YOU are one of them!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good.

And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.

PS – The BOLD type is because your eyes are not too good at your age anymore…

Embracing Fear!

There are fears that are rational… like walking around blindfolded and unaided. There are also irrational fears or phobias (and there are many)… ‘Decidophobia’ or the fear of making decisions, do you recognise this one? Or how about ‘Globophobia’ the fear of balloons – now this is one that I did (note did) experience personally; not the balloon itself, or blowing them up or even popping them, what horrified me was when a fully blown up balloon over time slowly lost air and became wrinkled and weird-looking! I bet your smiling now; either because it sounds bizarre or you get my meaning! If a balloon reached the passed its life expectancy appearance and was still hanging from its place of decor, I just could not go near it… Nooooo!

There is however another fear that can cloud your vision, which wipes out motivation, soaks up enthusiasm and paralyses momentum. It is ‘self-imposed’ fear. This fear does not only go against all that you are, but is one that is arguably the easiest to change. If you think fear, guess what, you will feel fear!

Many years ago, I practiced Martial Arts – it was a real passion of mine and tremendous exercise. What went with the discipline was not only physical but mental – this particular form of Martial Art placed more emphasis on the spiritual than thud, bang, wallop!

I was told a story back then that still resonates with me to this very day; and I guess introduced me to mind over matter attitude development. It goes something like this…

A Master took on a new pupil for training. The pupil was keen to learn his new craft and made his excitement and enthusiasm clear to his wise old teacher.

The Master asked his rookie pupil to go into a yard adjoining the temple to collect a plank of wood that measured around 18 inches width and about twenty feet in length. Looking perplexed the student duly followed his teachers order. The teacher asked his student to lay the plank of wood down on the temple floor, and asked his young charge to step on to the plank and walk from one end of the plank to the other. Unsure of why he was being asked to do something that in his mind was not the expected combative Martial Arts only served to arouse the young man’s disappointment. Nevertheless he duly proceeded as asked and walked from one end of the plank to the other. Once completed the Master with a craggy expressionless face asked him to repeat the action of walking from one end of the plank to the other and to continue doing so until he told him otherwise – after a while the student finally out of a mix of curiosity and frustration, asked his teacher why he was being asked to continually walk along the plank that lay on the floor. The Master simply uttered in a deep seriously brown voice ‘training training’ and once again immediately ordered his now visibly truculent pupil to continue his ‘training’. Eventually the student snapped, stopped walking, turned to his teacher and demanded why he was being asked to walk up and down on a plank that lay on the floor which he felt was a complete waste of his time instead of learning ancient Martial Arts techniques!

This only served to prove to The Master that his young charge was not ready, far from it… to show this, and without giving a reply, The Master ordered his student to pick up the plank of wood and follow him on foot high into a nearby hill surrounding the temple. They eventually arrived at the top of the hill; a perilous place a few feet from the edge of a cliff side – what lay beyond the cliff edge was several hundred feet of sheer drop to the valley below.

Approximately fourteen feet from the edge was the nearest point of the opposite cliff edge. The Master looked sternly at his weary pupil and ordered him to carefully place the length of plank between the edge they both stood upon and the edge of the cliff side immediately opposite. Having carefully done this, the student looked sheepishly at his teacher.

Now The Master once again demanded his previously impudent but now anxious pupil to once again walk along the plank…

Clearly then ‘fear’ is also relative, but moreover so much of its very essence can be identified in the nebula of irrationality. Overcoming fear is one of the greatest of all human liberation; the rich source of empowerment to be gained is immeasurable and without doubt potentially life changing.

Have you ever retired to bed alone in a house and thought of what might happen if someone or something were to enter your home? Suddenly you start looking at the dark corners of the room and begin hearing creaks and unusual sounds previously not noticed… you begin to feel uneasy, anxious; even scared! You are imagining and imagination is seriously powerful. By imagining dread, you can create irrational fear. What if you applied the power of your imagination and imagined success and good things happening to you regularly?

Your mind can liberate you or enslave you.

Fear too can be and if properly understood should be a catalyst for positive change. Atychiphobia or more commonly the fear of failure is an irrational fear. But getting beneath the outer layers of this particular fear and taking a positive view of it, can emerge to be a welcome self-development partner for taking affirmative life changing action.

I have reflected on the subject of Fear in the past, but very often the positive benefits to be gained from embracing fear is rarely highlighted and is not something most people can relate to, and I feel now is a good moment to share my thoughts on this area with you.

It is those that know what they are most afraid of that have the most to gain from overcoming their fears.

Think of it like this; you have a coin, on one side of your coin you have fear (something that immediately makes you say ‘I can’t!), now flip it over, take a look and on the other side there is ‘opportunity’. Opportunity is the primary key to the golden door of success – never ever turn your back on your primary key, YOUR opportunity.

To encourage more golden opportunities to come your way, you must secure your coins, then identify the fear or an action that is continually holding you back printed on them and then metaphorically flip them over to the other side and identify the associated opportunities to be gained – and you must mentally do this over and over, time after time when an invaluable coin displaying fear comes a calling. The more coins you discover, flip over and reap benefits from, the more empowered you become. This is one the most important self-development practices we can do. Absorb what you have just read, read it over if you must, but absorb exactly what it can mean to you.

Overcoming fear whether rational or not frees up ‘self’ like nothing else. The release at that very moment is inexplicable, truly awesome and incredibly self empowering. Jump over your first high hurdle, and the higher hurdles that will surely follow will become your stepping-stones to an incredibly new and meaningful life!

Trading Spaces

All of us whether we know it or not exist in our very own energy bubble.
This energy bubble is not seen with the naked eye by others, cannot be touched or apprehended or in normal everyday circumstances felt by the owner, but believe me reader it is there!

Ok ok; so what in the universe am I talking about? Let’s look at a negative and positive example of this phenomenon; this incredible unseen but real power.

There you are in an environment where there’s merriment, joy, laughter and cordial interaction – such is the air of serenity and ease that it takes something at the other end of the emotional scale to take you from out of the light fluffy clouds and dramatically hyper fast-forward you to a place so so very alien to so many of us most of the time. A commotion, a heated argument,  an unexpected disturbance of such volatility is now present that your sense of peace is shattered in an instant. You have absolutely no control on the force of energy being emitted from the core of this darkness and it slams point-blank into and through your personal space bubble drawing out the peace that once existed within it while at the same time, filling the remaining vacuum with its own destructive force.  You have now assimilated completely with this force and can feel the anger, fear and danger that now dwells all around you – and you are not the only one. Everyone within the ‘space’ is consumed by it. You have TRADED SPACE.

Here’s another example. You are walking along a busy market thoroughfare, when suddenly your eyes for some reason is drawn to and meets the glance of someone you have never known or seen before, yet there is this deep sense of ‘knowing’. It does not end there; you and this person are mysteriously both driven to engage – your personal space bubble is becoming filled with immense anticipation and erotic energy and this is mirrored by this not so strange stranger. Such is the near kinetic power in your bubble that you are no longer conscious of anything else around you, and time slows down the closer you both become! The first touch to enter the other’s bubble is nothing short of electric!! TRADED SPACE.

The above two simplified examples are presented to only highlight an important but often overlooked state of existence that we carry around everyday with us; our very own bubble of unseen power and energy that can touch the lives and souls of those known and unknown to you – both near and far!

What I am stating here may be seem profound, however I believe that it must not be underestimated. Knowing that this power of unseen energy that surrounds us at all times, opens up a myriad of possibilities to positively change not only your life but the lives of others.

The key to using this power of space trading is recognising it when it happens, and using the occurrence for the positive. Once you have locked on to this hidden resource, use it to empower you and others to a new and improved level of life, whether that is through oratory, the written word or physical demonstration.

If my bubble is filled with fear and negativity, total strangers may lock on to it, space trade and become fearful and negative too. If however my bubble is filled with confidence that emits inspiration and hope, others may become POSITIVELY INFECTED and want to share my space, assimilate and trade their lack of confidence for it.

Barack Obama’s incredible rise to trade space with millions of Americans to become the President of the United States is a fine example of this incredible power. Am I registering?

So be aware of your power and I urge you to go and TRADE SPACE positively and feel empowered in doing so.

Reflection : Change : Growth : Truth