Attachment is unhealthy

My niece just messaged me, she asked whether I wanted my late father’s radiogram, you know the type that plays vinyl records and has LW, SW MW radio integrated.

When my father passed away, she took it for safe keeping because it was one of her grandfather’s most cherished possessions. She’s moving from her current home, and where she is going does not offer the space to take it with her.

As she asked me, I instantly yearned to find a positive response to her request, for the very same reasons that she asked me; in the hope that this inanimate no longer functioning piece of kit would stay in the family. Unfortunately for me, I could not offer an immediate yes to her question. The thought of it being scrapped or not being cared for raises a deep discomfort within me.

Right there, I understood holding on to anything alive or not, only serves to draw negative energy into our lives should it be taken away or dies.


Being able and having the courage to let go and move on is essential to our well-being.  Money, Possessions, People, Pets etc, only have the value we place on them. Arguably, it is pretty much in the mind; though with losing a parent, it is perhaps something much deeper than that.

How often do we hear of people, making that life changing decision to leave it all behind, and find a new dawn in their lives? I admire such people, I find them inspirational. It harks back to some of my past blogs, about the ‘bigger picture’. If you focus only on a grain of sand, you will fail to see the sweeping majestic curve of the beach.

Attachment is one of many sources for mankind’s misery, on a domestic or an international scale, the principle remains the same; it is the I want it curse.

Buddhism is one principal faith that champions letting go of attachments; you want to sleep peacefully at night, learn to let go of stuff, whatever that ‘stuff’ happens to be.



Every Moment of Every Day…

is precious.

I am fortunate and privileged to be living by the sea.

I have a home office, where when I am not out meeting clients (I have just returned from such an engagement) I am able to see the cycle of the  seasons revolve year after year, and watch the sun rise and reluctantly dip serenely into the horizon; staged majestically on the distant surface edge of the sea.

I do not take such views and such experiences lightly, or for granted.  I know that at any moment, it could be all over.

It is the constant change of our world and everything mother Earth supports that compels me to accept that each day,  and each moment of each day must not be wasted.

Must not be wasted on negativity, pursuing selfish aims, on routine, on hateful and acrimonious endeavors. 

Just as the sun rises to share her unlimited love with us all, we should do the same for ourselves and others. We are not and never will be divorced from anything around us.

We smile at someone, they will likely smile in return, we see someone in distress or listen to a heartfelt tale of sadness, we too become affected and can feel that tender lump in our throat and our eyes fill with a salty tear. We witness an angry altercation, and our hearts will race to beat in time with those involved instantly; and our breathing becomes ever more rapid. Someone has an infectious laugh, it won’t be long before you start chuckling too!

We and everything around us are interconnected – do not imagine for one second or believe that what you do has no degree of consequence to someone or something somewhere, it does.

Throw Caution To Life

When I look back on the myriad of paths I have trodden, I am able to smile with a deep sense of satisfaction.  The saying, Life Is What You Make It, rings truer than ever, and it really is more than just a mere cliché.

I love reflecting on how I am affected by and respond to different cultures, environments, adversity, words, behaviour (in the broad sense of the word), opinions, silence, mayhem, threat, kindness, appreciation etc.

In order to reflect, I have to make a conclusion or two, I will have to form an instant judgement of some kind to know what choice I should make next.

The more I experience, the more choices  I am forced to make,  thus the more I learn, and the more I grow from the inside as a human being.

Many of us live our lives in a comfort zone, routine, know what we like and don’t like and that’s all that matters thank you, never that keen to step outside of the subliminal safety of our oh so familiar cocoon.

If these people find themselves in a strange territory, around strangers, it can instil fear, panic, and in some extreme cases, loathing too. It is almost child like… you know when you take your young child to school for the first time, it is not uncommon for that child to be struck with irrational fear of the unknown, and becomes distressed.

It happens for many adults too; and this is a real shame.

You know, all our experiences are down to choice, everything we have learned so far, and everything we can and will learn in the future is down to choice! Choice.

Think about it, what if you decided to learn a new language over the next six months, you can do it now… there’s nothing to stop you; what difference do you think acquiring such a skill will make to the value of your life?

What about using this five letter word… SORRY! What will this do for creating harmony and understanding around you… you can say it, say it and mean it right now!

What about making that call, that approach, to that person you have always admired, always wanted to meet, have a silent sense that this person is THE one!  What are you waiting for? There are two outcomes, Oui or Non. Isn’t it in your life’s interest to find out?!

We can go on to consider a host of other examples, but the real point I am making is, it is really time to throw caution to life, your LIFE.

This attitude to life is one I have embraced at an early age, it has led me to live through some crazy experiences, some bad, MOST quite wonderful. With these experiences I have acquired much; being at ease with strangers, in places I have not been before; seen a fair part of the world, but this is perhaps compared to those who stay cocooned in their comfort zone; and I am able to get by across time zones using more than my native language of English.

You now know from my an earlier blog post, that my now deceased parents could barely read or write, but they always encouraged me to make the most use of my talents, and never to limit my ambition.

I still have much to see and do, and those values drilled into me by my parents continue to burn bright and warm within. It is a message that I hope may allow you alsoThrow Caution To Life to remove your outer garments and finally run free!

Reflection : Change : Growth : Truth