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The attributes and strategies for success.

The spoken word is key to everything!


As we bow our heads as we along the roads, avenues and paths, more and more of us choose to message, text, send an emoji, or email, rather than open our mouths.

It is what it is; of course, in our fast and speedy western world lifestyle, sending a quick heart to a loved one is enough to indicate that you truly care.

Now more than ever, our alphabet is gradually being broken down into acronyms, grammar that can be likened to hieroglyphics and images.

But the importance of sound communication won’t go away, it will be crucial at times of emergency, times when a kind word can change lives, times when the sound of a yearned for voice can raise one’s spirit, times when only the spoken word is appropriate.

Oratory is a powerful tool, it moves people to do things they never thought they could or would. Martin Luther King Jr, the YES WE CAN mantra, the sermon in a church, and so on.

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The words and vows spoken between two people getting married, the words shared at the point of a loved one’s passing, the word SORRY, that will undo tension in an instant, and the poetic words of love…

Taking communication to the work place, the reliance on computer terminals and digital screens automates so much, yet the people factor is now missing, and as we create more and more AI machines, watch out people, ALEXA is slowly becoming a loving family member.

Listening is a huge part of communication, we don’t listen to hear, we listen to respond. Active listening for those in HR, Coaching, Teaching or Learning and Development will know just how important it is to listen.

What about raising children in an adult’s presence? Kids listen to every word that is said, if you use profanity, they will too, if you use constructive words, they will too, if you speak multiple languages, they will too, the importance of diversity is vital for their future lives, we share our planet with 7BN people, not 7 people; the 5 in your home and the couple next door, the world is shared among us all, but not all of us have control over what we can do with our lives, without penalties.

But I digress; so communication is key to everything, be it prayer or a cry for help, a word of support during a catastrophe, a word to a lonely elderly person, a stranger in an elevator, someone at a bus stop, the bar person, an Illuminati, they’re no different from the rest of us… use what many of us were born with, a Brain, Thought, Tongue, and Speech, use your words wisely, try not to hurt, and don’t cause offence.

EzyEmp

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Rules for Life #41 Let go of #inaction!


It is often the things that we don’t do that determines our path in life, it is true.

We all like to have nice things, the latest material items that may boost our prestige or kudos. Yet, most of us will happily settle for routine, doing tomorrow, what we did yesterday over and over again. Just how much do we want it!

All those people who we admire or despise in public life, did one of three things… 1) they were not ready to accept the status quo. 2) they had an internal drive to achieve or master something, and 3) opportunity knocked and they seized it with both hands and some.

Let’s look at all three areas in more detail.

PROCRASTINATION. You just have to look at the famous people who may post a quote, say on Twitter, and they get plenty of likes and retweets, and someone unknown makes an identical upload, and will be ignored. Same quote different response, clearly then it is not the quote that matters, it is who tweeted it. It is all about image, perception and stardust, and to be associated with a public figure for some is like a shot of ego juice in their vein, much like taking a selfie with a public figure. Well, that public figure is no different from those in their fan base, that public figure just wasn’t prepared to allow each day to roll into years until it is too late, nope, they wanted to make a name for themselves, and with it comes fame, and all that is associated with such a status, good, bad and indifferent.

A topical subject right now.  #Weinstein

MOTIVATION. Pretty much every action we take, requires a level of motivation. Now for most of us, getting up in the morning and going to our place of work, the by-product of doing this, is getting paid. For others, it’s about doing what they love doing (not work), for others it is about competing against Mr. or Miss somebody for the coveted prize, while for others not doing so, could be the difference between a roof over their heads, or sleeping rough. Whatever it is, MOTIVATION is always ever-present. But there’s motivation and then there’s MOTIVATION. I am motivated to stay healthy, without health I have very little… so my motivation to remain in great shape mentally and physically is a key driver for me. But I am also motivated to achieve new bench marks, and goals. Something I have always done. Think of your fav musician, they were once a beginner too!

What motivates you to do something extraordinary?

TAKING A RISK. Nothing in life alters without embracing change. CHANGE. We only have to look at the leaves of the tree at this stage of the season, to see the beauty of what change can display. Opportunities, and I mean serious opportunities may only happen 3 or 4 times in one’s life. The golden key to grasping such an opportunity is to listen to your silent voice, that inner voice in your upper chamber that is telling you to do or not to do over and over again, well not doing is to continue as-is. We’ve all been there. If I had listened to my silent voice on one or two occasions, I would be living in a completely different world right now. It isn’t easy to discern what is right when faced with a remarkable opportunity, it can be intimidating, or you allow others to talk you out of grasping that golden baton and running with it for the same reason.

So how will you know if it is the right decision if you never make it?

So let go of INACTION, see how your life can become filled with experiences you used to daydream about, or continue to silently imagine.

Time waits for no one, so take action and let go of inaction!

EzyEmp

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Would you buy music without hearing it first?


So much trouble caused in our world is as a direct result of prejudgment, making assumptions, and stereotyping!

As a man of colour, I venture into environments where, often I am the odd one out! Why do I do that? Well because I see myself as equal to anyone else in this world.

I was born not knowing what I will experience due to my outward appearance before my cognitive senses kicked in, but should I need to endure such energy?

The answer is obvious.

In truth, because of my personality, and outward demeanor I don’t often experience negativity, I try to immerse myself in the community, wherever I am or wherever I go, and always with a positive outward engagement.

Of course, there will be those that live in a shrouded dark cocoon, read only stuff that superimposes their suspicions, fears and learned bias. It is not unusual for me to experience women holding on to their purse or bag when they pass close to me, but that is them and I am me, but it does irk me from time to time.

I hold on to my wallet and smart phone too, for the same reasons.

It is called security. 

Though I don’t fear the person, I fear losing my phone or valuables, it’s quite different. How do I know this? Well from 40 meters away, I sense their fear – it is an acquired sense for those of us who have that extra dose of melanin. It is rare, but some will cross over the road, while others will walk near the kerb, and others will even from afar, shift their bag to the opposite side from my path, that’s how I know that they’ve immediately judged me, not because they know me, but because people who look like me, are deemed to be dangerous. In the words of Trump… SAD!

So where am I going with this?

As the title of this blog asks, would you buy music without hearing it first? Be honest now! I suspect not. Oops I am making assumptions, my bad 🙂

Joking aside, why do so many of us judge one another??

We assume this and that, pigeon-hole people regarding race, gender, religion, wealth, demographics, how we dress, our accents, and so it goes on… without actually knowing who our fellow human being is.

Of course, in situations where there may be some kind of threat, your serene instincts will kick in, is there to protect you and will always be right.

However, when you step out your front door, and the guy or family opposite looks or behaves different from you, you make an instant assessment without even saying hello to gain some kind of response, to kick open the stubborn communication door to engage with that guy or family.

Yeah I know some of us are shy or reserved and would rather they make the first move, but suspicion and or fear in your mind generates an energy that is, shall we say discernible, and if that discernible energy translates in the mind of your neighbour as suspicion and or fear, they too won’t make the first move, so what do we have?

Yes, a stalematethis happens up and down the land.

Often times, when you engage with someone you feel suspicious about, you will often be very pleasantly surprised. We can all learn from each other, we all know something that another person doesn’t.

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Travel for me, is the best way of breaking down preconceived barriers.

Now, we like to think we’re the most intelligent species on the planet, but when you consider the above, I am not so sure.

So let’s focus on the positives…

The statementwe have more in common than what divides us‘, is a fact.

Should we take that view on a daily basis, instead of buying music we’ve never heard, the world would be a much better, more peaceful, empathetic, understanding and mutually loving place to exist.

Think about it, and practice the statement above in the coming days, and see what positive experiences you have encountered and learned, and if you wish, report back with comments.

EzyEmp

Rules for Life #40… the value of #family


Our family is a rich and unlimited source of security, knowledge and love.

The family should form the foundation of our growth from childhood into becoming an influential, positive and effective adult.

Society has placed in some cases, insurmountable pressure on the family unit. The mother, father and siblings social group of the 21st century creaks alarmingly in the so-called developed world. It is being continually bombarded with negative energy that has forced many to turn their backs on their own family, and seek refuge in friends outside of their gene base who they regard as their ‘real’ family.

A tribe that administers security, knowledge and love is a tribe that can withstand all kinds of destabilising forces.

What was that statement in the Soul Food movie.., all those fingers rolled into one, can be a fist that can strike a mighty blow (sic).

A truly powerful statement.

Family is invaluable for all sorts of reasons, mainly because that’s where we learn what is what during our formative years, and these early impressions will be taken way into our adult life.

We must understand that through our family group, we have been given the responsibility and power baton to realise our true and inherent potential. It is from your duty to the family, that you should make every conceivable effort to become a more spiritually and cognitively aware being.

Having entered this plane of existence knowing and relying only on your inner-most senses, it is critical therefore that you cultivate the latent positive power through your family group, to fully enjoy the confidence to live a life that has been served to you by nature, in order to utilise these rarely used abilities.

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Be aware that you have an invisible, yet tangible effect on your blood social unit; every negative decision taken on a family platform, will harm your power base.

Welcome and embrace the changes and evolution that exists within your genealogical group, and entice the influential members to recognise and champion the importance of the family unit.

Living your life knowing that your family base is rock solid, will empower your life inextricably.

Please harness its power!

EzyEmp.

Rules for Life #39 A problem shared, is a problem halved…


Do you have someone who you can turn to when you’re going through a challenge, a problem or even a crisis? Well I sure hope you do!

We humans despite how much we mess things up, we usually rise to assist someone in need, not all of us, but most of us will. Those who don’t, well it’s difficult to know why, but there can be all manner of things that deter them from holding out a helping hand.

I struggle to see someone going through a crisis and not give a supporting voice, a listening ear, a helping hand, or simply take the problem over and sort it out for them.

I love the underdog, those who need help, I am there…

But that’s me; and as they say the more you give the more you get back – not instantly, but overtime your kindness, empathy, compassion, understanding will be reciprocated in some way – plus the more you give, the better you feel about yourself.

GOOD KARMA has a way of finding its angels and rewarding them.

Here’s one of my mottos…

The difference between an outstretched palm and a helping hand is a twist of a wrist.

EzyEmp

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Rules for Life #38 Respect.


The ‘do unto others’ statement should be a moral code for all of us, but in my experience it is too often ignored and instead the Me Me Me and more Me mentality prevails in the social winds!

The respect is earned and not given… I like to give respect, whether or not it is returned does not matter to me, it is my moral code.

However I am the three strikes and out kind of guy, I am tolerant to the point where I can put up with insincerity for a while, but not for eternity. There is that topical ‘RED LINE’ that I mentally and emotionally have programmed within, and when triggered, sorry, no disrespect, but please take a hike!

Feeling respected is an empowering feeling, it makes you feel worthy doesn’t it?

The I AM SOMEBODY moment.

For those of us who lack self-esteem, or don’t feel worthy, a few kind words, and or just being gracious, can lift them out of the dark mood mire.

Respect therefore is incredibly powerful. 

Women, minorities, the disabled, the disenfranchised and those who are poorly educated or introverted, may have a deep need to be respected. Some, in specific circumstances and or environments, could have their negative emotions easily roused, if a look, or a word that is being negatively perceived, can ignite this emotion, and in turn can lead to anxiety, trigger shame, and shift their mood to one of anger or even violence.

Learn to be aware of this.

Look, there’s always something we can learn from our fellow human being, regardless of how we look, or where we have come from. So keep an open mind.

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Do not make the mistake that being respected means being valued, VALUE is a far deeper expression of affection socially than being respected. Respect is often viewed as an external social behaviour and or need, but being valued is an internal emotion; irreplaceable in fact.

The expression of I VALUE YOU, resonates much deeper in my view than the often insincere words of I LOVE YOU, in whatever language.

So respect is important as stated, it can make some of us feel like we are appreciated, it also plays to our ego for some of us – we all possess some elements of ego, it is what drives us to do this and that… like combing our hair, looking in the mirror, or buying that new car with the new high-tech gadget that no one else has, or some of us just trying to get that tan on vacation to make others appreciate us more – not that I need to do so of course.

Ultimately, respect is just good old-fashioned good manners, it is one of the many social qualities that binds people together, improves communication, and both champions equality and removes inequality across humanity.

We witness it among the animal kingdom don’t we, so let’s apply respect whenever and however we can.

EzyEmp.

 

 

 

Regrets are necessary…


There’s no worse feeling than having a deep sense of regret is there, it is just one of those NOooooo experiences right!?

More often in life than not, it is the things we DON’T DO that dictates our path in life.

From time to time we are presented with exceptional opportunities that are so blatantly obvious, that some of us will freeze in disbelief, resulting in a sense of trepidation.

The ‘should I shouldn’t I’ scenario, summed up as procrastination.

Often when faced with this moment in time, one often choose to avoid taking the moment to seize the moment. 

That sense of trepidation should be heeded and embraced, it’s your higher-self revealing a clear channel for change, not just any change, a lasting enriching LIFE CHANGE.

It is truly understandable that many of us will err on the side of caution, it is the what’s behind the door moment, don’t open it or the yongibongibow will be there waiting for you.

Many of us will find and have found just when we are faced with calamity, good fortune comes to our rescue. It is no accident dear reader, we get in life what we put in life.

For example if you do bad deeds, bad outcomes will follow. If you do good stuff, the good stuff fairy will be at your back; there to protect you from failing or losing or feeling enough is enough.

Paradoxically, that enough is enough moment is necessary, without it we will continue to move forward in a straight line superfast into the proverbial brick wall without ever thinking deeply to change what we do so we can avoid that brick wall.

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Regrets are powerful tools for change, real change, not just any change, a lasting enriching LIFE CHANGE, if we choose to wake up and smell the regret coffee.

We often choose to think a regret as a NOooooo moment, but in fact, it is a signal for change, a sharp prod in our rib cage, a necessary slap on the back of our confused head.

So the next time you arrive at a regret moment, pause and ask yourself this…

What do I do now? Will I let the perceived negative experience halt me in my tracks and force me to make decisions based on an emotional mood, or will I wake up and smell the regret coffee. Choose wisely!

Seriously, before taking action, think first, remove the emotional aspect from your thinking and think with clarity, with focus on what your next decision will be.

What do I want for me? Not many of us ask this profound Q enough.

EzyEmp.