Category Archives: SUCCESS PRINCIPLES

The attributes and strategies for success.

Self-Respect matters…


I see so many people being disrespected, and for some reason, they allow such behavior to continue.

Quite often, it is usually the person you are most close with that will disrespect you, be it family or friend or more often than not, your ‘loved’ one.

But why does this strange paradox exist?

If you don’t respect yourself, ain’t nobody gonna give a good cahoot!

Says The Staple Singers! 

If there’s one thing my late parents taught me, is to never allow anyone to disrespect me, and in order to do that, I have to respect myself first!

If you have read my blogs, you will know I will give people 3 chances and after that I will walk away, I will not tolerate repetitive rudeness. Once may be a mistake, twice is taking advantage, thrice is my red line, it STOPS right there!

If you get to the third stage of disrespect that person senses you don’t respect yourself and hence, that person has in effect become a manipulative bully and will abuse you whenever they wish. If you allow such behaviors to continue, you will have minimal control over the perpetrator, seriously zero to minimal!

So when you go to sleep tonight, think just how much do you respect yourself, really just how much???

Remember your instincts are triggered for a reason… listen! 

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Rules for 2018 #1


So another year has passed and another is well on the way, I do hope this year for you will not mirror the one just passed!

Here are 15 lifestyle choices that I think are necessary for 2018…

  1. If someone shuts you out, let them; and don’t ever return for more of the same.
  2. If someone treats you kind, with love or with affection, treasure them.
  3. Make an effort to do something you have never done before; life is for LIVING!
  4. Don’t spend more than you earn, money for most is hard to come by.
  5. Be nice, even to those who are not nice to you.
  6. Read, Read, and Read a little more, and travel, travel and travel a little more.
  7. Expose yourself to different cultures, different people, anything different in fact.
  8. Learn a language, learn to bake, learn to swim, learn to code, just learn.
  9. Be humble, be truthful, be authentic, and stop being an echo chamber.
  10. Indulge yourself with music, music, music and your kind of live MUSIC!
  11. Drink lots of water, lots of it daily, avoid too much sugar and too much salt.
  12. Enjoy great sex and more sex and more sex, we all love mind-blowing sex!
  13. Be around people who make you feel good about life, who will allow you to be you.
  14. Try and sleep well, relax the muscles in your face right now, yes now!
  15. Try not to sit down too much, try to use the stairs rather than the elevator, try walking more, or cycle instead of taking the car to go 400 meters up the road.

In the 2nd rules for 2018 post (and there will only be two for 2018), my next 15 point plan, will focus on what I now do best,

CAREER ADVICE! 

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Happy 2018 to you and yours, do remember life is determined by that all-encompassing POWER OF CHOICE!

EzyEmp

Rules for Life #42 It’s what you don’t do that shapes your life direction


Right now, many of us will know that if we had only taken that key action or decision, we would be living a totally different and superior life.

You know, life will always offer up golden opportunities, it’s whether we recognise them or, when we do, grasp them. Being proactive and affirmative in our actions is vitally important, but this is based usually on our desires, wishes and needs.

What our universe will from time to time present, are windows of exceptional opportunities that are not planned, not thought of, not considered and never imagined.

These are the golden nuggets that we must always try to identify and grasp; you will usually hear it in your silent mind or feel it in your bones.

Look, right now we all have something we want to do, something we may even need to do, but we’re conditioned to follow our daily pattern of behaviour… so we will turn on Netflix and binge, spend hours on social media, we will indulge in our often health damaging habits, we spend time admiring those very icons, that have grasped the universal opportunities served to them, instead of investing in ourselves.

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Here’s the thing… affirmative action.

You know you want to make that call – So make it!

You want to be that expert – start as a beginner; all experts were beginners!

You want to see the world – plan, save and do it!

You want to be rich – learn from those who are; buy their biographies, replicate authentically, and work damn hard.

You want to speak a different language – study, practice and speak it!

Want to get back what you give – keep on giving, even when you don’t get it back immediately, give it time, it surely will – what goes around comes around.

Need to lose weight – be more active, eat less and be persistent until you achieve your target weight; seek help if necessary.

Need to find someone to love – stop what you’re doing, take a leap of faith, be brave and go somewhere, where you’ve never been before perhaps; you may potentially bump into that special someone who you had never expected to meet – Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are a fine example; believe me, there’s someone out there for all of us.

Ultimately, be bold and take a risk!

I could go on and on… but I won’t, you get it right? 🙂

So when (and it is always when) our Mother Universe send you her gifts, don’t ever turn your back, embrace the moment, use the moment and shape your life!

EzyEmp

 

Brown grass…


By Gregory Porter.

It is easy in a world where most of us are never or rarely satisfied, to overlook what we have and just how far we have come.

It’s easy to overlook the 90%, focus on the 10%, give up and move on.

Not being satisfied if used for motivation, is a good thing, it offers one drive and the desire to reach that key goal, however if used for greed and gain underpinned with insecurity and how others may be thinking, well that’s another matter entirely.

If you’re instinct is telling you this doesn’t feel right, then act, instinct is your real self.

DO NOT and NEVER IGNORE!

If you are on the other hand comparing yourselves to material images, icons or what others may judge you by, well again, that’s another matter entirely.

The vast majority of us are in a better place than 2/3rd of the world’s population, only in our consumer driven, glossy image and money orientated world, this just is not enough right?

So many of us do not sleep well enough, because after putting your heavy head on your soft pillow, in just 5-6-7-8 hours, the next day is where you will walk on the glorious and inherited stage of life, and that’s where you are exposed to all manner of threats, comparisons and judgments, and in order to compete, we think short term, what do I need to look like today? What gadget should I have in my possession? Who should I associate myself with or to?

We will often cut our nose off to spite our face, very often for no justifiable reason or rational unemotional cause. Following which, as time continues to move on and on, and when we look back, the reflection is a disturbing FACE PALM, SHAKE MY HEAD moment; an action that we look back on with regret, but as you know I espouse that regrets are necessary, without regrets, we will never become wise.

So the grass you’re standing on is green, now of course there may well be greener grass some where, but it can take a series of regrets to find it, if you have the desire to experience regrets that’s great, even though I know that regrets are necessary, it really isn’t that pleasant is it?

So here’s Mr.G Porter to serenade us out into the weekend.

Live n Love

EzyEmp

The spoken word is key to everything!


As we bow our heads as we along the roads, avenues and paths, more and more of us choose to message, text, send an emoji, or email, rather than open our mouths.

It is what it is; of course, in our fast and speedy western world lifestyle, sending a quick heart to a loved one is enough to indicate that you truly care.

Now more than ever, our alphabet is gradually being broken down into acronyms, grammar that can be likened to hieroglyphics and images.

But the importance of sound communication won’t go away, it will be crucial at times of emergency, times when a kind word can change lives, times when the sound of a yearned for voice can raise one’s spirit, times when only the spoken word is appropriate.

Oratory is a powerful tool, it moves people to do things they never thought they could or would. Martin Luther King Jr, the YES WE CAN mantra, the sermon in a church, and so on.

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The words and vows spoken between two people getting married, the words shared at the point of a loved one’s passing, the word SORRY, that will undo tension in an instant, and the poetic words of love…

Taking communication to the work place, the reliance on computer terminals and digital screens automates so much, yet the people factor is now missing, and as we create more and more AI machines, watch out people, ALEXA is slowly becoming a loving family member.

Listening is a huge part of communication, we don’t listen to hear, we listen to respond. Active listening for those in HR, Coaching, Teaching or Learning and Development will know just how important it is to listen.

What about raising children in an adult’s presence? Kids listen to every word that is said, if you use profanity, they will too, if you use constructive words, they will too, if you speak multiple languages, they will too, the importance of diversity is vital for their future lives, we share our planet with 7BN people, not 7 people; the 5 in your home and the couple next door, the world is shared among us all, but not all of us have control over what we can do with our lives, without penalties.

But I digress; so communication is key to everything, be it prayer or a cry for help, a word of support during a catastrophe, a word to a lonely elderly person, a stranger in an elevator, someone at a bus stop, the bar person, an Illuminati, they’re no different from the rest of us… use what many of us were born with, a Brain, Thought, Tongue, and Speech, use your words wisely, try not to hurt, and don’t cause offence.

EzyEmp

Rules for Life #41 Let go of #inaction!


It is often the things that we don’t do that determines our path in life, it is true.

We all like to have nice things, the latest material items that may boost our prestige or kudos. Yet, most of us will happily settle for routine, doing tomorrow, what we did yesterday over and over again. Just how much do we want it!

All those people who we admire or despise in public life, did one of three things… 1) they were not ready to accept the status quo. 2) they had an internal drive to achieve or master something, and 3) opportunity knocked and they seized it with both hands and some.

Let’s look at all three areas in more detail.

PROCRASTINATION. You just have to look at the famous people who may post a quote, say on Twitter, and they get plenty of likes and retweets, and someone unknown makes an identical upload, and will be ignored. Same quote different response, clearly then it is not the quote that matters, it is who tweeted it. It is all about image, perception and stardust, and to be associated with a public figure for some is like a shot of ego juice in their vein, much like taking a selfie with a public figure. Well, that public figure is no different from those in their fan base, that public figure just wasn’t prepared to allow each day to roll into years until it is too late, nope, they wanted to make a name for themselves, and with it comes fame, and all that is associated with such a status, good, bad and indifferent.

A topical subject right now.  #Weinstein

MOTIVATION. Pretty much every action we take, requires a level of motivation. Now for most of us, getting up in the morning and going to our place of work, the by-product of doing this, is getting paid. For others, it’s about doing what they love doing (not work), for others it is about competing against Mr. or Miss somebody for the coveted prize, while for others not doing so, could be the difference between a roof over their heads, or sleeping rough. Whatever it is, MOTIVATION is always ever-present. But there’s motivation and then there’s MOTIVATION. I am motivated to stay healthy, without health I have very little… so my motivation to remain in great shape mentally and physically is a key driver for me. But I am also motivated to achieve new bench marks, and goals. Something I have always done. Think of your fav musician, they were once a beginner too!

What motivates you to do something extraordinary?

TAKING A RISK. Nothing in life alters without embracing change. CHANGE. We only have to look at the leaves of the tree at this stage of the season, to see the beauty of what change can display. Opportunities, and I mean serious opportunities may only happen 3 or 4 times in one’s life. The golden key to grasping such an opportunity is to listen to your silent voice, that inner voice in your upper chamber that is telling you to do or not to do over and over again, well not doing is to continue as-is. We’ve all been there. If I had listened to my silent voice on one or two occasions, I would be living in a completely different world right now. It isn’t easy to discern what is right when faced with a remarkable opportunity, it can be intimidating, or you allow others to talk you out of grasping that golden baton and running with it for the same reason.

So how will you know if it is the right decision if you never make it?

So let go of INACTION, see how your life can become filled with experiences you used to daydream about, or continue to silently imagine.

Time waits for no one, so take action and let go of inaction!

EzyEmp

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