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Rules for Life #40… the value of #family


Our family is a rich and unlimited source of security, knowledge and love.

The family should form the foundation of our growth from childhood into becoming an influential, positive and effective adult.

Society has placed in some cases, insurmountable pressure on the family unit. The mother, father and siblings social group of the 21st century creaks alarmingly in the so-called developed world. It is being continually bombarded with negative energy that has forced many to turn their backs on their own family, and seek refuge in friends outside of their gene base who they regard as their ‘real’ family.

A tribe that administers security, knowledge and love is a tribe that can withstand all kinds of destabilising forces.

What was that statement in the Soul Food movie.., all those fingers rolled into one, can be a fist that can strike a mighty blow (sic).

A truly powerful statement.

Family is invaluable for all sorts of reasons, mainly because that’s where we learn what is what during our formative years, and these early impressions will be taken way into our adult life.

We must understand that through our family group, we have been given the responsibility and power baton to realise our true and inherent potential. It is from your duty to the family, that you should make every conceivable effort to become a more spiritually and cognitively aware being.

Having entered this plane of existence knowing and relying only on your inner-most senses, it is critical therefore that you cultivate the latent positive power through your family group, to fully enjoy the confidence to live a life that has been served to you by nature, in order to utilise these rarely used abilities.

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Be aware that you have an invisible, yet tangible effect on your blood social unit; every negative decision taken on a family platform, will harm your power base.

Welcome and embrace the changes and evolution that exists within your genealogical group, and entice the influential members to recognise and champion the importance of the family unit.

Living your life knowing that your family base is rock solid, will empower your life inextricably.

Please harness its power!

EzyEmp.

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Watch “THE MINDSET OF HIGH ACHIEVERS – Best Motivational Video for Success in Life & Study 2017” on YouTube


I’m feeling fired up today, and I’m burning bright, feel my heat!

My parents had difficulty reading and writing, but I’m an author today; and sharing my observations, knowledge and reflections through the written word is my elixr.

I’m driven to motivate and inspire not only others, but my higher self. 

I will leave a positive legacy and memory prior to my spiritual transformation

EzyEmp.

Perception is more powerful than reality


Sometimes I often and do need to reflect on my personal journey, for reasons that some of you may share or in some tenuous way, understand.

As ever, on the top of my journey list are people; people who you think are friends or even family, but when you dig deeper, you begin to discover that they only have and use their own self-interest as leverage to move their lives forward, whilst using others as human vehicles.

Added to that journey list, are those that drop their external mask and what is revealed behind their crumbling mask is not the person you thought you knew, but a person who you don’t really know at all.

I recall a story, where a married Italian couple who were married for well over 60 years and was celebrating their wedding anniversary. The wife revealed to her husband who are both now well into their 80s, that she had a fling very early on in their marriage. This revelation so enraged her longtime, husband, lover, partner and friend, that he divorced her.

(As you know my mantra is never make emotional decisions)

She clearly felt that having lived together for so long over many decades, that such an honest confession would be weighed up against and understood by her husband, over what they have shared and nurtured over such a long time, well she was clearly wrong… and he believed that his wife was as faithful as the nose on his face!

The saddest thing is, that there was very little life left for them both. 

Perception is more powerful than reality right?

If I know anything in life is that anyone can infiltrate minds by creating a perception of credibility; scammers, cheaters, politicians, fake news…

It can be a very useful tool to have in our life journey tool bag, but use wisely.

However, when all is said and done, eventually the time will come when ‘the boy who cried wolf’, will not be taken seriously because, there’s was no WOLF!

As you know, people fascinate me, in every way possible – from toddlers who could not give a care in the world, who are stainless, openhearted and precious, to those who have seen all that the world has to offer, have forged judgmental opinions on this and that, and still have influence and much to say!

Yet ultimately, it is what lies deep in our hearts and not in our minds that will determine our destiny, the indelible influences during our formative years, what we choose to do and the consequences thereof, who we ride with through life, and that all important attitude to life effect.

EzyEmp

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Want it – say it. Need it – get it. Love it – show it.


We’re a strange species are we not? I am often confounded and astounded by the things we do.

So many of us are living a life of undesired discontent, not happy, no idea of how things will transpire in the short or mid-term.

Yet we still have the ultimate power of choice, do we not? 

It’s a paradox right? We have the power to choose and yet so many of us do not make the right choices. Why is that? Lack of knowledge or experience…  fear or perceived expectations perhaps?

Well I have a theoryI believe that many of us don’t choose for ourselves, we actually make choices based on what we think we should do, what the media tells us to do, what others are doing, what is hip and trendy, what emotions we are feeling at any one time... am I making sense?

When we are young, most choices are instinctive. Yet somewhere between those early years and adulthood, the internal lines of nature becomes blurred with the external lines of expectation and what drives the ego; and of course with ego, there’s a downside; unfulfillment.

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So how do we get what we want, achieve our needs, and find that rare form of unconditional love?

Some advice…

It all stems from what you want, what you need and what you love.

What do you want for you? What do you need for you? What do you want to love, and who do you want to love?

Quite honestly, we do make so many decisions in our lives complicated, needlessly I might add. Keep things simple.

All things in life requires effort and to some degree, necessary planning and a set of realizable aims.

So what are your aims?

Start with the end in mind, how do you plan to realize those aims; work backwards. What tools, resources and choices are needed to make your aims come into fruition – yes there’s a need for effort, application and a positive mental attitude, yet none of us could walk without falling down countless times as toddlers. So effort and motivation is inherent in our psyche and human nature.

Therefore effort and motivation must be and will be your twin partners in life, draw on them both; it’s a bottomless resource, ready and waiting to be unlocked and deployed; if we only choose to call on and apply them. Find it!

Life as we know isn’t easy, so much of what we do is impacted by external and internal factors that can affect our lives in ways that we have little or no control over, but we still do have the ultimate POWER OF CHOICE, and with it, a myriad of outcomes and consequences.

Choose wisely! 

EzyEmp.

 

 

Regrets are necessary…


There’s no worse feeling than having a deep sense of regret is there, it is just one of those NOooooo experiences right!?

More often in life than not, it is the things we DON’T DO that dictates our path in life.

From time to time we are presented with exceptional opportunities that are so blatantly obvious, that some of us will freeze in disbelief, resulting in a sense of trepidation.

The ‘should I shouldn’t I’ scenario, summed up as procrastination.

Often when faced with this moment in time, one often choose to avoid taking the moment to seize the moment. 

That sense of trepidation should be heeded and embraced, it’s your higher-self revealing a clear channel for change, not just any change, a lasting enriching LIFE CHANGE.

It is truly understandable that many of us will err on the side of caution, it is the what’s behind the door moment, don’t open it or the yongibongibow will be there waiting for you.

Many of us will find and have found just when we are faced with calamity, good fortune comes to our rescue. It is no accident dear reader, we get in life what we put in life.

For example if you do bad deeds, bad outcomes will follow. If you do good stuff, the good stuff fairy will be at your back; there to protect you from failing or losing or feeling enough is enough.

Paradoxically, that enough is enough moment is necessary, without it we will continue to move forward in a straight line superfast into the proverbial brick wall without ever thinking deeply to change what we do so we can avoid that brick wall.

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Regrets are powerful tools for change, real change, not just any change, a lasting enriching LIFE CHANGE, if we choose to wake up and smell the regret coffee.

We often choose to think a regret as a NOooooo moment, but in fact, it is a signal for change, a sharp prod in our rib cage, a necessary slap on the back of our confused head.

So the next time you arrive at a regret moment, pause and ask yourself this…

What do I do now? Will I let the perceived negative experience halt me in my tracks and force me to make decisions based on an emotional mood, or will I wake up and smell the regret coffee. Choose wisely!

Seriously, before taking action, think first, remove the emotional aspect from your thinking and think with clarity, with focus on what your next decision will be.

What do I want for me? Not many of us ask this profound Q enough.

EzyEmp.

 

Rules for Life #37… Stay #Healthy.


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If there’s one thing more precious than life itself, it is our health.

The sands of time and mother nature will of course take their toll, but we really must do everything to protect our health, not just on a personal level but environmentally too.

Some advice…

Sit down less, walk up stairs instead of taking the elevator, walk or cycle as opposed to taking your car just to go less than a mile/kilometre down the road, drink less alcohol, smoke less, avoid what we already know are toxic substances, change your mental outlook and attitude to one of a positive mind-set, smile more, exercise more if just for 5 mins in the morning before work, and 5 mins before you go to bed (just 10 minutes in 24 hours is not asking a lot), sleep more, eat the right foods; we all know what they are, find a companion to enliven your mind, have a pet, avoid repetition, enjoy sex with the one you love, read more, travel more, surround yourself with positive people, take a walk in the park, along the beach, along a river bank or canal, watch a wildlife documentary.

Finally, Stop Wishing & Start Doing!