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Rules For life #43 One good turn deserves another…


One good deed begets another, seeds of kindness, sown in summer, blooms like Spring in mid December…  by the late and great Mr. Al Jarreau.

So here we are again, just 4 days from opening our prezzies!

You know, I fail to understand why so many of us go a little crazy at Christmas, we spend more than we earn, eat more than we should, drink liquids that we would not normally consider, spend time with people we rarely ever see or hear from or even like, but it is the most wonderful time of the year!

The missing jigsaw from the Christmas puzzle, is usually that man called Jesus Christ, who is or should be the main event of the evening.

As the title says, one good turn deserves another – so it is the coveted law of reciprocation. The do unto others as you would be done by mantra.

Now there will be those who will always take, and then there will be those that will always give, and then there are those in the middle that will give and take, usually without thinking.

So, as we approach the most wonderful time of the year, have in the back of your mind the following….

  1. Can you be as gregarious during the rest of the year as you are during the festive season?
  2. Are you prepared to hook up with someone you rarely see, as you are prepared to tolerate during the holiday season?
  3. Will you focus more on the reason for the celebration Mr. JC, or be unable to wait to get your hands on that prezzie without a moment of reflection?
  4. and finally, will you return the kindness shown to you at this time of the year during the remainder of 2018, or will you just forget such kindness once the occasion is over?

CHOOSE WISELY!

So I will take this opportunity to wish you and yours a rich, loving, peaceful and a very Merry Christmas!! 

EzyEmp 

#merrychristmas

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Rules for Life #40… the value of #family


Our family is a rich and unlimited source of security, knowledge and love.

The family should form the foundation of our growth from childhood into becoming an influential, positive and effective adult.

Society has placed in some cases, insurmountable pressure on the family unit. The mother, father and siblings social group of the 21st century creaks alarmingly in the so-called developed world. It is being continually bombarded with negative energy that has forced many to turn their backs on their own family, and seek refuge in friends outside of their gene base who they regard as their ‘real’ family.

A tribe that administers security, knowledge and love is a tribe that can withstand all kinds of destabilising forces.

What was that statement in the Soul Food movie.., all those fingers rolled into one, can be a fist that can strike a mighty blow (sic).

A truly powerful statement.

Family is invaluable for all sorts of reasons, mainly because that’s where we learn what is what during our formative years, and these early impressions will be taken way into our adult life.

We must understand that through our family group, we have been given the responsibility and power baton to realise our true and inherent potential. It is from your duty to the family, that you should make every conceivable effort to become a more spiritually and cognitively aware being.

Having entered this plane of existence knowing and relying only on your inner-most senses, it is critical therefore that you cultivate the latent positive power through your family group, to fully enjoy the confidence to live a life that has been served to you by nature, in order to utilise these rarely used abilities.

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Be aware that you have an invisible, yet tangible effect on your blood social unit; every negative decision taken on a family platform, will harm your power base.

Welcome and embrace the changes and evolution that exists within your genealogical group, and entice the influential members to recognise and champion the importance of the family unit.

Living your life knowing that your family base is rock solid, will empower your life inextricably.

Please harness its power!

EzyEmp.

Keep Calm It’s My Daughter’s Birthday!


On the 10th of October 1987 my eldest daughter was born, today is her birthday!

There’s a special bond with your first-born. I love all my girls the same, and what I mean is, is that not one of them will find my favour more than the other.

However, this year has been quite a remarkable one for my eldest, she’s now gotten married, and hoping to expand our family.

It only seems like yesterday when she won TV toddler of the year when she was 2 years old.

Photo below taken on the day!

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Since then she now owns her own production company, worked on both the small and large screens and on stage, created her own brand of clothing, hosted the annual BUFF awards to her usual no frills excellent standards, and of course, now married.

Along with the above she has gone through tragedy; losing her nephew before he had the chance or the maturity to get to know his aunt, losing three of her grandparents, been suffering with mental illness, though you wouldn’t know it, and buried her sister’s cat Midnite. With that backdrop, on the plus side, she’s been a dedicated support to her mum, granddad and sisters, but has also witnessed her dad (me) suffer injustice, which turned out to be a blessing in truth and has led me to an even better place of existence.

A Superwoman indeed!

Today is her birthday, her 3Oth.

I recall when I was working the stage in Mallorca, Spain, I was 33 years old, she was 5 and at the front of the stage with her sister who was 3 years old, both were dancing with such glee and pride on their faces watching their dad dancing and singing; that memory will never be erased.

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So, my dearest Kyla, my first-born, my love.

Here’s to your 30th year of your life.

I can only ask that you continue to be the remarkable being that you are, not only for me, your mum and family, but being the change that we all want to see that is manifested in your free to air expression. Your dedication, your intelligence, your positive energy, your charisma, your commitment to your cause, your joy, your incredible smile and dashing beauty.

Live and Love always my sweet angel, Love Poppa!

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Happy Birthday KVOFrye

Pic credit to Fab Design Co’.

 

The Great Grandmother of all Fairytales!


Well what can I say, I gave my daughter away to a man who as sure as I am alive today, he will be beside her, behind her and deep deep within her heart.

They’re now on their own journey of self discovery, one which may reveal cracks along the way, but with love and commitment they will for sure both overcome even the greatest of STORMS!

I really must remark on just how extraordinarily beautiful my daughter looked, sometimes I just need to thank the universe and all that the forces for good keeps blessing me with.

I cannot be more proud to have enabled a life to be filled with the realisation of a cherished fairytale, one that my daughter will nurture and grow, with intelligence and undiluted focus.

To Mr. Marcus Onilude & Mrs. Kyla Frye-Onilude.

Stay united, stay composed through challenges, stay grounded, be joyous in whatever you both do, stay committed to your own deity, build your life on love, peace and balance in all things.

From your Poppa and Father in-Law.

And remember this…

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An expanding family…


In 2 weeks and 2 days, my eldest daughter will be getting married.

Now all marriages will and should be an occasion for joy, merriment, commitment and love. My daughter has all these qualities and more in abundance.

She’s also incredibly beautiful.

So what does this mean for me?

Well it kind of suggests that I am moving along the conveyor belt of life. It also means that I will be given the appendage of an ‘in-law’. It also means that I will have a Son in-law; I don’t have a son, but her fiancé, despite being a Liverpool FC fan, is truly a wonderful guy in the traditional sense.

It also means that I must make a key-note speech at the wedding reception without screwing up.

3 out of 4 of her grandparents have since passed away, one sadly relatively recent, and as such, only her Grandfather on her mother’s side will be there to witness his grand daughters’ fairytale day.

During a time when relationships are becoming increasingly under pressure for all the reasons that are obvious, these two people have also been through unrelenting and at times unjustified pressure, but have come out the other side with smiles and positive optimism for the future; how have they done that?

Well as my daughter would say, “IT’S A PARTNERSHIP Poppa”.

Yes for sure it is precisely that. 

You can read all about my daughter @kylafrye in this magazine or follow her on Twitter.

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2 weeks and 2 days and counting… from a proud Poppa.

EzyEmp

Rules for Life #33


Christmas is meant to be a celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ, though Jesus Christ rarely gets a mention these days. Sometimes this period of the year turns out to be a time that some of us would prefer to avoid, not because of the theme of goodwill to all men/women, but because some men and women can be, well shall we say a little annoying.

What often happens when people get together this one time at this time of year is perilous gossip, which in turn leads to uninformed judgement.

So with this in mind, here’s a Rule for Life just before Christmas that is worth noting.        It all boils down to clear communication.

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