We can also use words to reassure, to warn of danger, make someone feel special, to reconcile, to motivate, to preach, change minds, empower, to give direction, to convey understanding.
Some will use words to hurt, insult, belittle, threaten, accuse…often with accompanying profanity… those nasty, gutter sourced words that says more about the user, than the target of their abuse.
I have been the subject of the latter, not often, in fact half a dozen times in my life… and I am now in mid-life, so I am pretty lucky.
Many of you will know that what I write will usually fall into the description shown in the second paragraph above; which is what I am about; that is being positive, half-full, creating change, enabling self-reflection, self-belief, championing the power of choice, to look inward, start with ‘self’ and so on.
In spite of who I am and what most people who engage with me come to know, I am not ring fenced against the tirade of profane abuse. A phrase like F***ing C**t … yes strong words like that have been leveled at me.
Whether doing so was and is right (we are probably united in the likely answer here), or whether I chose to accept or respond, is really unimportant.
What is important, is understanding the POWER of Communication and the WORDS used.
Words can change lives, it can make someone who is suffering the deepest of deepest depressions to experience a sense of hope, and believe again!
It can make someone who feels the world is against them, that by saying a simple “how are you?” “is there anything I can do?” re-evaluate their lives.
We all know how the Obama, “YES WE CAN” mantra mobilized many millions of people into believing CHANGE IS ON THE WAY!
WORDS are usually the transmission of thought from our outer self, it carries unlimited ENERGY… the inner self however does not need to articulate.
Inner self communicates silently, precisely and with relevance, and is even more powerful as a result. This is why being in the midst of the target of someone’s outer self-abuse, that by responding with inner self SILENCE, the abuser become confused, if not silently concerned about the lack of REACTION, and instantly sets about diffusing the wrath that the abuser was hoping to see their target suffer from.
Profanity is for me lazy, it is also a weakness… but this is my opinion.
We are not born to use such words, on the contrary, our words should mirror our birth right, that is we’re born to love, and smile, and laugh, and share, and help, and be free from prejudgment… however, we are also born to learn and learn rapidly, so we are open to learning the bad stuff we’re taught or experience, and then take this into unwisely executing abuse verbally and sometimes physically.
Doing so will not make our lives better. No, in fact it creates suffering, turns a potential friend into a potential enemy, and says, this is how I have learned to communicate; but ultimately using profane words is simply unpleasant…, I am no prude reader, exclaiming a few choice words at the right time, used strategically can be a potent weapon, indeed a shrill of f***k if you bang your knee against a sharp object is understandable. All good then.
It’s when using profanity to specifically hurt that is unmistakably counterproductive.
I have taught my daughters not to use the words like Can’t or the word Hate or similar… and for good reason. Rather they use the word LOVE a lot!
So really reader, choose your words carefully, THINK! Know that words carry positive and negative energy; common sense should dictate which will serve your interest best.