Emotionally Handling Unemployment

The current job market is a testing environment for the job seeker, worse still if after being in a highly paid and responsible role for sometime, you now find yourself at your local Job Centre Plus and claiming benefit… for you this whole experience is very difficult to deal with indeed, but dealing with it is essential.

It sometimes feels like good fortune smiles on everyone except you doesn’t it? What may also go with these moments (they are in truth only moments) of what seems like insurmountable obstacles is that they seem to have queued up and waiting for you to come along! Are you with me on this; am I close to describing your own experience?

It is quite easy to wallow in self-pity and repressed anger at it all!

Of course doing so changes little in reality; in fact doing so may often make matters worse… keep it up and it could lead to a form of depression, introversion and anti-social behaviour. In truth it achieves the exact opposite of what you would like to experience and where you want to be. So pull yourself together!!

Of course as we all know our moments of doom and gloom are relative. Someone unknown to you at this precise moment will have just been told that they have just days to live, or lucky you – you could’ve been born in a part of the world where good fortune left decades ago; where there is no work, life borders on death and eternal struggle.

FACT – everything we experience starts with us, NOT with something or someone outside of our control. That’s worth paraphrasing isn’t it?

All we experience begins with our thought, action and the resulting consequence. If you are out of the blue handed a redundancy notification, you will feel like a victim, if you CHOOSE.

There’s no short-cut to good fortune, why? Because good fortune is all around us all the time.

By good fortune I am not talking about winning the lottery (though you first need to buy a ticket to win it, so there’s little luck there right?) or similar, even though such an event may be viewed as what good fortune actually represents; no I mean that if you choose to apply yourself (thought) to make something positive happen it surely will, just as if you choose to apply yourself (thought) to do something negative – it will certainly happen! Now that’s POWER right?

Now when you view the set backs in such light, they’re not really set backs at all, not when you have life’s remote control in your grasp! These events happen if YOU do not have a target or series of targets to go for, or perhaps you do indeed have worthy targets, but alas you are NOT fully committed to them or engaged with them fully. Any resulting poor output from your targets and efforts could be manifested through self-doubt, lack of preparation, weak application and so on…

A well-known statement often repeated in the world of Self Development and Mentoring is this ” if you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you will keep on getting what you’ve always got!” and that’s a FACT!

So changing and upping the mindset is without doubt career-success critical if you are to break the current block and the potential for recurring disappointment; doing so is really the order of the ‘moment’, then the need for ‘handling it’ will eventually be rendered null and void.